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After years in tech sales chasing success — President’s Club, titles, stock options, commission checks — I burnt out.

And in 2020, everything collapsed.

For four years, I wrestled with depression, anxiety, constant stress, and a growing sense of disconnection from myself. Then I was fired for performance.

On paper I had “made it.”
But my inner world had been unraveling.

I hit a point where something had to change.
So I decided to rebuild my life from the inside out by doing the inner work I’d avoided for years.

Then I started writing about mental health online.  
I grew an audience of 40,000+ men. 
I built a 6-figure coaching business. 
Life was moving again.

But in 2024, things got the darkest they've ever been.

I slipped into the deepest depression of my life and faced thoughts of ending my life. As painful as that was, it pushed me to seek a deeper truth.

In 2025, I walked 3,007 miles across America for men’s mental health, raising $70k+ along the way. I chose to walk without music or distractions, just me and everything I had been running from.

That walk totally reshaped me.
It gave me a level of clarity, presence, and internal strength I hadn’t tapped into.

Now this is my work.
I help men who feel stuck, numb, or disconnected feel like themselves again.

Men who look fine on the outside but are overwhelmed inside. Men who want clarity, direction, and emotional stability… not more performance.

Through our program, The Integrated Man, and the inner mastery practices we teach, we help men reconnect to themselves so they can live with presence, strength, and truth.

Millions of men are struggling silently. 
My mission is to change that.

Everything changes when a man finally turns inward and faces that which he has been avoiding. 

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A simple plan to feel clearer, calmer, and more like yourself again.

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Be kind. Seek truth. 
Keep going.

🖤

Tim Perreira

Thrive ADHD

Pay-what-you-want quality resources for ADHD: thriveADHD.gumroad.com

Founder

Henrietta Weill Memorial Child Guidance Clinic & Adult Behavioral Health

Therapist II

Sweater

Founding Member | Investor

California State University, Bakersfield

Clinic Manager

Got ADHD? Pay What You Want for my products. No joke.

My story of ADHD, struggle, and what came next:

Back in 2009, I had no life to be proud of. I had been single after a terrible breakup. High school didn’t prepare me for what came next, and no one wanted to hire me. I always felt different in the way that I think and wanted to do something with it. I then enrolled in college and failed most of my courses. I was crushed.

Most people told me “just try harder” and I’ll get what I want. But this wasn’t so easy with a brain like mine. I told myself to keep doing what I knew. Which was to hang out with the same crowd, doing the same stuff, and having the same outcome. It was comfortable and I was good at it. But something had to give because I wasn’t happy anymore, and completely lost.

That’s when a close friend of mine asked me to go out with her more often. She did things differently. That put me around a different crowd that gave me confidence to volunteer. This led to a job offer which made me more confident to start up college again. Although my mind felt messy, my emotions were getting better.

The problem was that I had no structure, no accountability, zero purpose, barely any support, stuck in my thoughts and felt lost constantly. I had ADHD and didn’t know it. That’s why in 2012 things changed for the better. 

My plan was to start being honest and take myself more seriously as a human. I knew I wanted to help people but I had to help myself first.

The results:

➔ happily married
➔ became a therapist
➔ am a published author 
➔ now getting a doctorate 
➔ building a business publicly

And now I want to share what I’ve learned on this path to those who may have felt like me back in 2009. Just like you, I had to learn what works, what doesn’t, and figure out how to move to the next part while keeping what I’ve built in tact.

Once I made these needed adjustments using research, tools, training, and personal experience, I could finally say that I feel a bit more found rather than lost. After 20+ years of struggle and hard work, I’m proud to say that I feel great in my relationships, confident in academics, and productive in my career.

If this resonates with you, click below for free items:

ADHD library: https://thriveadhd.gumroad.com/
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Jacob Kountz

The Body Keeps the Score
The Let Them Theory

These books have a few things in common.

Strong trends of public outcry in how unhelpful, unscientific, and wrong they are. Which is understandable.

And public discourse in these books have opened doorways of curiosity for a lot of hurting people. 

I’ve had my back and forths with professionals on this. My current consensus isn’t anything amazing, but tried and true.

I still trust that whatever works for the individual, works. I’ve come to understand there’s too much expertise in a person to question their choices if they think it will benefit their life. I simply can’t knock that.

I also acknowledge not everything is even keeled in these popular books, and perhaps how this information was actually acquired. And before I criticize these publically, I cannot forget what they’ve done for others.

But what are your honest thoughts about these books? Do not take my word for it. I’d rather know yours.

#theletthemtheory #thebodykeepsthescore

Got ADHD? Pay What You Want for my products. (Working on dissertation)

Thanks LinkedIn,

For sending me emails for jobs at “Top Companies” that best fit my expertise.

I don’t know a lick about software development, but I guess it needs a therapist.

#linkedin #job

ADHD info not a part of the DSM but definitely should be:

- overabundance of attention, not deficit
- sleep circadian rhythm challenges
- sensory processing difficulties 
- rejection sensitive dysphoria 
- neurobiological elements 
- emotion dysregulation 
- gender differences 
- racing thoughts 
- time blindness 
- genetic data
- rumination

All of which comes up as I write my dissertation in 2025.

#adhd

You don’t need to understand how ADHD impacts me in order accept that it’s my reality.

#adhd

A letter to RSD,

I don’t like you. And I know you certainly don’t like me either. And it also feels like others don’t like me because of you. I just don’t like this whole thing at all.

You feel like a visual virus that I can’t unsee or not feel when I want to connect with others. This emotional pain is too much, and I want to be around people because it does get lonely. And I think at the core of it, I honestly feel deep betrayal and shame.

I hide from people. Don’t text them back. Make up stories uncontrollably that never happened or I’m afraid will happen. I’m convinced any step I make to be social will put me in a position of severe rejection. Or worse, I’ll be seen for everything else I can’t stand and criticized for it.

But despite this. Despite you. I will prevail, I think. You may have undermined my every move, my every thought. But I know I’m getting better in regulating you. Better in managing the humiliation. And think you know this too.

How do I know this though? Well, I can talk about it more. I can unveil your atrocity in public because stigma doesn’t have its way with me. I can acknowledge Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria took my power and I’m tired of it, and can and have done something about it. I’m doing it right now.

So until we meet again (probably tomorrow), I will be 1% stronger than you. And the best part is that you’re replaceable. I can certainly practice replacing your ways with self-compassion. Because I know I’m worthy of it.

Yours truly,

A therapist with ADHD

#rsd #adhd #therapist

ADHD feels like your brain is finally warmed up, but now it’s bedtime.

#adhd

ADHD non-support: “You need to focus better.”

ADHD support: “Let me understand you better.”

#adhd

Somebody has to say it…

ADHD isn’t over diagnosed. If anything, the diagnoses are overdue.

#adhd

I think it’s unethical for therapists to say:

“You will be healed”
“You will change”

My code of ethics taught me to recognize that advertising is a part of informed consent.

That is, to provide as accurate information as possible for your services.

Accuracy is not synonymous with lofty outcomes because there are too many variables involved to promise this. This is misleading.

That doesn’t mean you can’t try to educate others about data, research, and help others garner hope.

It does mean you need to be cautious with your language, and not undermine the people you say you wish to serve. 

#therapy

young therapist me: “grief has closure”

me therapist now: “grief can be lifelong”

#grief

As a therapist, anytime I feel disconnected treating others in therapy, I picture a tuning fork, and ask myself:

“Am I attuned to this moment?”

Often, my vibrations are faster or slower than my clients. Meaning, I’m in my head or somewhere else.

And being in the presence and attuned will be more meaningful for the client and our relationship.

Noticing this each time helps me realign. And viola! Reconnection again.

Be the fork.

#therapy

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ADHD is hating clutter yet a good reminder in what to work on next.

#adhd

ADHD feels like one big riddle that you don’t know how to solve. Also, you made up the riddle.

#adhd

You don’t always have to ‘eat the frog’

Do something fun first.

#adhd

Probably one of my most serious posts. As a therapist who has treated many people for a long time, it’s not uncommon suicide becomes a topic.

I’ve written online about it before, and I’m careful about it. Not because talking about it makes someone want to do that, that’s a myth.

But because I honestly care about every person I seem to speak to. I don’t know if it’s the helper in me, empathy, or just the fact people have a soul worth caring for.

Suicidal thoughts can get the better of anyone who struggles with it. It could be because of financial concerns, challenging upbringing, detrimental relationships, or all the above.

Many suffer in silence with these thoughts, and yes, sometimes they can progress to plans and action, but there is another side of this.

My goal is to help identify quality hope. Anytime I’m talking to someone, I truly do think they have good reason behind their intention with suicide. Yet, I notice we’re talking about, so I know there’s so much more on their mind.

Often, when you provide enough warmth, and being human, and say “tell me more” you’d be surprised what people disclose to you, because they are seeking connection, I think.

And in addition to the darker thoughts to end it all, are curious thoughts of “maybe if I can last another day. Just one more day.” And that’s where hope lives. Even if it’s small.

The importance here is to connect. Connect with a professional. Connect with a friend. Call or text 988. Get out of isolation even if you think that’s the only answer.

Share if you think this could help someone.

#suicideawareness #depression #therapy #hope

ADHD is living with the grief that comes along with letting go of the many brilliant ideas you’ve had over the years.

#adhd

Happy Thanksgiving!

As a therapist, I’ll keep it simple. I’m truly and utterly thankful that humans appear to have been made to heal through healthy connections with others. It’s amazing.

I’m in the business of helping humans navigate human experiences. One of which is having rich social relationships. I can’t explain how we were able to figure this out, but we did.

And I’m filled with gratitude knowing that I’m blessed to be in a position where I get to be a part of a glimpse in thousands of lives in therapy. Building one rich connection at a time.

Being simply human.

#thanksgiving #relationships #therapist

Here’s a stack of my degrees. I’ve got plenty of them. 

…and another one on the way. 

As you can see they are sitting on top of my cabinet, not hung, collecting dust. 

Most of my clients (including myself) don’t necessarily care about seeing my status. 

They just want someone to talk to who can provide an optimal amount of presence, connection, and honest conversation.

(oh yeah, forgot to mention, I’m a therapist) 

I’m grateful to have my education. But I’m more grateful it’s put me in a position where I can focus less on the little letters after my name, and more on the person sitting in front of me.

#therapy

My friend Candice Thompson is now a TEDx speaker y’all.

She’s a therapist, and has something important to say about AI and therapy. 

I was just telling a friend the other day, “This message is going to blow up.” Why?

Because there is a mental health crisis, people need access, are using AI, but at what risk? 

Candice said it best: “AI has no soul.”

Please consider 11 minutes of your time to watch a powerful message.

Proud of you, Candice.

#tedtalk #tedx #therapy #ai

https://lnkd.in/gTECRG-J

Open video: Why AI can't be your therapist | Candice Thompson | TEDxApex on youtu.be

Why AI can't be your therapist | Candice Thompson | TEDxApex

ADHD feels like an ongoing project of an unclear path that leads to nowhere, and you decide to keep going anyway.

#adhd

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