High Magick X Systems | I see & remove blocks you don't know exist, but feel - without Zoom, phone calls or being in the same room | Change Mentor for Executives & Founders who want to live with more depth & die happy

Most of the decisions you regret weren’t “bad decisions”.

They were built on values you never defined properly.

It’s why you stay in roles, relationships and versions of you that look fine on paper but wrong in your body.

You didn't just end up there - you unknowingly decided your way into them.

Because each choice you make sits on top of values that collapse the moment people, money or pressure push back.

In The Obsidian Vault, we cut through all of it so your tough decisions feel simple to make:

We'll break down: 
- What’s really happening.
- What you’re actually loyal to and why it matters.
- What it will cost to keep things as they are.

That’s how you stop making decisions you regret and build a life you don't.

You'll see clearly, decide cleanly, and live closer to what you truly value with each choice you make.

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫
 -You’re smart, capable & deeply responsible, but privately exhausted
 -You’re dragging unfinished conversations, roles or relationships behind you
 -You’re standing in a life that looks fine on paper & wrong in your body
 -You’re value driven, but feel a constant gap between what you stand for vs what you tolerate.

More insights, healing or content won’t change that. This is the lever:

Language, structure and perspective that makes it harder to lie to yourself.

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐈 𝐚𝐦
I’ve walked parallel paths since I was 19, when I quit uni to build a 25 year career with the likes of Goldman Sachs, UBS, HSBC, Barclays and others.

I set up my first business alongside my first job, went on to build two jewellery brands, a business transformation consultancy, and a private practice working with 600+ founders and executives through High Magick.

All while navigating Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (c-PTSD)

Tough calls come with that territory, and often arrive all at once. But that wasn’t new to me.

Aged eight, I became a carer for my disabled aunt. It was violent and turbulent.

I had a front row seat to what happens when loved ones refuse to make obvious decisions, what it costs them, and me.

It taught me something most miss:

Your best decisions are made when you can be a bystander in your own life at the right moment - then move swiftly.

That’s tough for most people.

Master it, and you solve problems before they can even exist - just like I, and 600+ executives and founders have.

Through real-life (anonymised) examples from their sessions and my own life, I explain how.

When you need to stop making decisions you regret and build a life you don't, welcome.

https://theobsidianvault.substack.com/about

Sonal Bhaskaran

Sandra Harewood Counselling

I provide counselling packages for couples unhappy with the current direction of travel in their relationship but committed to making a change.

Psychotherapeutic Couples Counsellor

When struggling to decide if it's worth fighting for a marriage or if it's time to let go, many women often distract themselves from the sadness of their lives by throwing themselves into work and careers.

Distraction is rarely the solution. Working with me, women get to know their answer, whether to remain in the relationship or end it so they can finally move forward without regret.

This coaching is for you if:

You've been considering divorce but are struggling with the decision, feeling torn.

You want to reclaim control over the direction of your life.

You want the confidence and tools you need to move forward, whether you choose to stay and recommit to the marriage or leave and divorce.

As a certified Jungian Life coach with considerable experience in relationship and couples therapy and my own experience of divorce, I am uniquely placed to support you with this decision, whatever you decide to do.

Psychotherapeutic Relationship Coach

As an experienced psychotherapeutic counsellor specialising in relationships. I support my clients in overcoming the blocks to creating meaningful change in their lives and lasting relationships.

Many women experience relationship difficulties due to codependency, insecure attachment styles, historical trauma or emotional neglect. 

As a result, they feel confused about what a healthy, loving relationship looks like, what they deserve to receive from their partner and what kind of partner they want to be.  

This confusion often results in a repeated pattern of choosing the wrong partners or, once they have committed to marriage, a repeated push-pull cycle with their partner, which leads to stuckness and an unfulfilled relationship.

Relationship counselling supports clients with:

Understanding the early childhood dynamics that established a template for self-love and how love is received by and offered to others as adults. 

Deepening the understanding of themselves and significant others.

Recognising self-sabotaging patterns

Improving listening and communication skills

Eliminating conflict avoidant behaviours

Becoming more comfortable and confident with who they are and what they want.

Setting boundaries

Reconnecting to the body to unlock trauma, connect to unexpressed needs and wants and develop emotional resilience.

I work with individuals whose adult relationships have been shaped by narcissistic parenting, addiction, childhood bereavement, childhood sexual abuse, adolescent sexual trauma and 'good girl' expectations.

Psychotherapeutic Counsellor 

Norwood Therapy Rooms

Norwood Therapy Rooms offered luxury consulting rooms for therapists and coaches designed by a therapist.

Owner Norwood Therapy Rooms

BROMLEY COMMUNITY COUNSELLING SERVICE

I volunteered in my local community, providing one-to-one counselling to adults. 

Clients who were survivors of childhood sexual abuse, childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and trauma shared their stories and had their stories affirmed by a trained professional (me) listening to them. This witnessing, for me, is the power of therapy. 

With a healing experience that goes with sharing old wounds, clients also developed a toolkit to cope with the impact of symptoms such as anxiety, depression, shame and relationship difficulties.

Honorary Counsellor

Wandsworth Bereavement Service

As a mental health professional, I know individual grief is unique, and there is no 'right' way to manage it. 

As part of a team offering time-limited counselling, I worked with adults suffering the impact of grief in all forms, including complicated grief and the secondary grief that goes with the death of a spouse in marriage. 

I witnessed how grief is shaped by many things, including suicide, miscarriage, sexual abuse, abortion and domestic violence. 

It was a privilege to support these clients with their experience and understanding of this challenging period of their life.

Southwark Carers

I was a member of a small but effective team in an agency that provided a vital space and support for carers to take care of their mental health through counselling.

Most busy professional women give everything to their family and work. 

They fear things will fall apart if they don't.

At work, they are consummate professionals.

At home, the marriage is caught in a vicious cycle that feels hard to break. 

One day, they catch themselves and realise there's nothing left to give. 

There hasn't been for a long time. 

When they finally pause, they wonder if they are in the right relationship. Why have they stayed so long?

They suddenly understand that professional success isn't the antidote to heartache and emotional pain. 

Busyness isn't protection from feeling stuck in marriage while holding out for something to change. 

Now they're wondering what's next but torn.

Is it a yes? 
Is it a no? 
Is there a chance for a change? 

No matter what you are experiencing, limbo is a painful place to be.

I get it. 

Sometimes all it needs is to take time out to talk things through. 

I know because I've been there.  

That's why I work with women like you who are unhappy, confused about their marriage, considering divorce and wondering if this is the end.

As a Psychotherapeutic Counsellor, Couples Counsellor & Coach, along with my personal experience of marriage and divorce, I bring a unique insight into my work with you. 

Here's what a coaching client had to say:
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'I've been feeling stuck in a relationship but unmotivated to make a change. Sandra encouraged me to take a deeper look at feeling stuck and the moments in my relationship where I was feeling frustrated. Sandra immediately made me feel at ease, and I trusted that she was on my side. It was a great empowering experience - a sense of having control of my destiny. K

 ⭐️ WHAT I DO

I will provide tools and support you while you take a step back to gain clarity and make that life-changing decision. You'll identify your and your partner's parts, work on changing problematic patterns, and ultimately make a final decision that is right for you. 

Whether you decide to stay or leave, I will support you with what comes next.

⭐️ WORK WITH ME

You don't have to take years to decide. The Marriage Clarity & Confidence Coaching Programme is designed for you to make the right decision for you and your relationship. 

Couples counselling packages are designed for you if you want to decide with your partner.

⭐️ LET'S CONNECT - book a clarity call, and together, we'll discover your next best steps. https://sandraharewood.as.me/letsconnect

If you prefer, you can come over and have a chat with me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sandraharewoodcounselling

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