Exited founder turned CEO-coach | Helping founders discover who they are as leaders and build high-performance, low-drama companies

Over 15 years I founded and served as CEO to three VC backed companies (one big exit and two learning experiences), all while presenting only the most polished, hyper-competent version of myself and my company, at all times. And then, in 2020 I left it all behind.When I signed the papers, officially removing myself as CEO of the company I’d started a decade prior, it felt like I’d been punched in the gut.Without my persona as the “CEO of VNN,” I realized that I had no idea who I was anymore, or what to do with my life.It was the opportunity of a lifetime.I spent the next 2 years searching, meditating, hanging out with monks, diving into psychedelics, and trying on new identities that never felt right.I was stuck.And then, I finally opened up.I started being honest about my struggles, despite the voice in my head telling me to play a role. I let go of my compulsion to be “Ryan the CEO,” or “Ryan the entrepreneur,” or even “Ryan the guy who’s raised a ton of money and scaled a media company.”I was just, Ryan.And the most surprising things happened.1. The more I opened up, the more everyone else did around me. My network grew and developed into one of deep relationships spanning life and business.2. The more I let go, the more the universe seemed to place exactly what I needed on my doorstep. Things began to happen organically, in ways much better than I could have planned.3. The quieter my mind got, the more I was able to access an innate wellspring of creativity and inspiration that, frankly, made work feel easy and joyful.Me, the guy who’d worked so hard his whole life to be perfect, when I learned to let go and be me, great, meaningful work flowed out of me.And from that foundation, I started Inside-Out Leadership, a boutique executive coaching firm that helps founders transform their companies into their masterpieces and step fully into their lives.Today, in my work as a coach I see the tendency to present that veneer of polished competence in nearly every founder I meet. And while I recognize the need for presentation in some cases (fundraising, recruiting), I also see how that need to look good actually gets in the way of our learning and growth.If you're tired of doing your own impression of the "perfect leader," you're not alone.Shoot me a DM. There's another way. And it's fucking incredible.

Ryan H. Vaughn

Big news! I'm so excited to welcome Derek Haswell to the team as a Partner and Founder Coach! 

I met Derek early in my coaching journey, and have wanted to conspire together in some way for years. He's amazing. And now I'm eager to see what we get up to together at IO. 

In 2013, Derek accidentally co-founded a meditation company. He helped build an award-winning product, scaled to 8-figure ARR, and worked with some of the best meditation teachers in the world, including the Dalai Lama.

Today, Derek blends outer work (strategy, goals, accountability) with inner work (self-awareness, resilience, what's actually driving the stuckness).

In his own words:

“I've lived that trade-off as a founder and it sucked... for everyone. Then I discovered they could be part of the same path, and it changed everything. Now I help founders make the same shift.”

I’ve known Derek for years, as a coach, a builder, and a wonderful human being, and I’m so excited to co-create Inside-Out with him, and support our founders in scaling consciously.

Check out Derek's full story in the comments. It's worth the read.

Exited founder turned CEO-coach | Helped early/mid stage startup founders raise over $500m, and create equity value over $12bn (and counting...)

I have big news. But first, a story. 

I talk with founders every day who are in the middle of real inflection points.

Co-founder splits. Post-exit identity crises. Scaling without burning out. The weight of figuring out who they are as a leader.

But I only coach 15 people at a time, which means I can't work with most of the founders I speak with.

That's always bothered me, so we're doing something about it.

Introducing: Inside-Out Virtual Workshops.

Small (around 8 people). Led by me and the Inside-Out team using the same frameworks and modalities we use with our 1-1 clients, finally accessible to a broader group of founders.

The first workshop is Getting Unstuck. It's for the founder or exec who knows how to do hard things, but keeps hitting the same wall in one specific area.

Most approaches to this work outside-in: Better habits, tighter systems, more accountability. And if that's worked for you, great. But if you've tried all that and you're still stuck, the problem probably isn't discipline.

This workshop works from the inside-out, using IFS (Internal Family Systems), an evidence-based framework that has become one of the most powerful tools in serious executive coaching.

Give me 90 minutes. You'll leave with a new way of seeing the stuckness and a concrete experiment to take into your life.

WHEN: March 23rd. Noon to 1:30pm ET.
COST: Free

Space is very limited. Click the link in the comments if you'd like to apply.

A client told me: “The single most important thing for my company right now is the fundraise.”

Then he paused. “And it’s the thing I avoid every morning.”

I see founders in inner conflicts like this every day. This type of dynamic can take years to unwind, and kill companies and relationships along the way. 

After nearly a decade of coaching founders, I've found one reliable method for resolving inner conflicts like these: 

Internal Family Systems, or IFS. 

IFS is a leading toolset at the bleeding edge of exec coaching, and is built on the only scientifically proven method to change emotional learnings, Memory Reconsolidation.

It's a core tool in our practice at Inside-Out, and we're teaching founders how to use it themselves live on March 23. 

When we looked inside at this particular issue, we found two competing parts.

One part wanted the company to grow. The other part said, “If this fails, you’ll look like an idiot in front of your investors.” So we work on the problematic part. Once you do that, the system stops conflicting.

This doesn't take weeks of months. The best coaches help clients get unstuck in an hour or less. 

Want to learn how it works? Apply for our first intimate workshop on March 23. Application in comments.

"The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it."
–J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan

I've played basketball my entire life, and here’s what I’ve noticed. If I step on the court
believing I'm the best player there, I hoop. If I'm uncertain, I play poorly.
Leadership works the same way. If you believe you'll win, you'll win. If you believe you'll lose, you'l lose.
Confidence is king.

But real confidence isn't peacocking. It's not pretending you have all the answers. It's not even earned through success. You can build a great company and still be one bad outcome away from doubting yourself.

Real confidence comes from alignment between who you are inside and how you show up in the world.
The ball’s in your court.

For most of my career, creativity came from pressure. From big problems I had to solve. From outcomes I needed to hit. 

But there's a different kind of creativity that lives underneath all of that. It comes from joy. From play. From love. I call this place presence. And it's where the most interesting work happens.

I see this all the time working with post-exit founders. During the scale-up, every identity shift serves the company. But after the exit? When that crutch is gone and you're staring at a blank page, wondering what's next?

That's when the real work begins.

Because now you're not choosing who to be based on what needs to get built. 
It's terrifying. And it's also the most creative place I've ever been.

There’s a hidden force behind many “productivity problems.”

It’s not laziness. It’s not discipline. It’s not even time management.
It’s fear.

When pressure, uncertainty, or self-doubt creep in, the brain doesn’t lean into bold work.

It looks for safety. Suddenly emails feel urgent. Slack feels necessary. Small,
controllable tasks replace the ambiguous, high-stakes ones that move things forward.
From the outside, it looks like busyness.
From the inside, it’s avoidance, rooted in fear.
And the insane part? It feels rational.

Understanding how fear quietly reshapes attention, decision-making, and execution is
one of the biggest unlocks for founders and high performers.

Because you’re not always fighting a workload problem.

Sometimes you’re fighting a fear problem.

The most defining part of leadership isn’t certainty. It’s the unknown.
Especially now, when AI and systems increasingly handle the predictable, repeatable, “figured-out” work, what remains for founders and CEOs is ambiguity.

Leadership becomes a cycle:
Enter the unfamiliar.
Navigate the discomfort.
Create clarity.
Hand it off.
Repeat.

The lesson is simple, and I’m trying to follow it myself.
Stop treating discomfort as a warning sign.
It’s usually evidence you’re exactly where you need to be.
Learn to recognize it.

Normalize it.
Build the internal capacity to move forward anyway.

Most people have picked a side on AI.
Either it's the greatest tool ever built, or it's an existential threat we're sleepwalking into.

The binary is comfortable. But the leaders I work with who are navigating this most
effectively have learned to hold something harder: Both.

The fear is real. It lives in the gut. It wakes you up at 3am thinking about the world your kids will inherit. The excitement is equally real. As it should be.

The mistake isn't feeling one or the other. The mistake is collapsing into one becausethe other is too uncomfortable to carry. 

The most important things in life are paradoxical. They resist resolution. And AI may be the defining paradox of our time.

As F. Scott Fitzgerald said, "The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function."

Angry seagulls are going to make you a better leader. Stick with me and I’ll
explain.

You"re in a board meeting. An investor cuts you off. "I don't think you know what you're doing. Your strategy is completely wrong."
Do you fight back or shut down?
When this happened to me once, I made two mistakes.

First, I said "okay" while quietly resenting the investor. That didn't work.
Then I pushed back and defended myself. Also a mistake. It took me years to find the third option. Get curious.

Not the kind of curious where you ask questions to trap them. The kind where you stay grounded in yourself while opening up to what you might be missing.

You're going to run into "angry seagull" investors. It's not if, it's when.
You can fight back. You might win the moment, but you won't grow.

You can blindly agree. You'll lead your company somewhere you don't believe in. Or you can ask questions. Really listen. Stay confident while staying open.

How you react when you're uncomfortable dictates the trajectory of your company and
career.

So…

What angry seagulls are in your life right now?
The investor who keeps pushing back?
The co-founder who questions every decision?

The board member who never seems satisfied?

What would it look like to stop resisting them—or blindly accepting them—and start
getting curious about what they're here to teach you?

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The most comforting and terrifying thing I’ve learned in business is the same truth. Here's the story.

My real education happened inside a startup accelerator. 12 intense weeks, surrounded
by founders, mentors, and Thursday night “fireside chats.”

One moment stuck.
A wildly successful executive paused when asked for his single biggest lesson for entrepreneurs. “Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing,” he said.

“The difference between successful companies and unsuccessful companies is that, with the successful ones, you can’t tell.”
That perspective has followed me through every stage of my career.

Do they teach that in school? I wouldn’t know.

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One late night, I got a call from a board member.

It was around 11pm my time, which means it was probably 3am his time.

What he said stuck with me forever.

Most leaders don’t have a strategy problem.
They have a validation problem.

The most dangerous addiction in business isn’t money or power.
It’s being liked.

Applause feels like progress.
Agreement feels like safety.

Slowly, decisions stop being about what’s right and start being about what won’t upset anyone.

That’s not leadership.
That’s people-pleasing with a title.

Control is the most expensive illusion in your company.

My Zen teacher used to tell me, “Sit down, hold everything still, and watch what moves.”
What moves is everything you don't control. Your thoughts arrive uninvited. Your
emotions surface without permission. The narrative you've built about agency begins to
quietly unravel.

AI is doing something similar at civilizational scale. It moves too fast, builds too
suddenly, disrupts too completely to let you maintain the fiction. But I've come to believe that confrontation is a gift.

The founders who thrive aren't the ones who reassert control in the face of uncertainty.

They're the ones who find a different relationship to power, one that doesn't require control as its foundation.

That's not passivity. It’s a more sophisticated form of strength.

"You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." — Marcus Aurelius

This video has been making its way around the Internet. You should stop and watch before you keep reading.

Most people think reading 900 words per minute is impossible. Until they do it.
What changed?

Not their brain. Not their intelligence.
Their belief about what was possible.

We’ve seen this before.

Same with running the four-minute mile.
And having smart machines.

Entrepreneurs do this constantly.

We build invisible ceilings and convince ourselves they’re real.
Then a crisis hits. Or something else forces your hand.
And you discover the ceiling was never real.

When people read 900 words per minute for the first time, there’s genuine shock. Like they discovered some supernatural ability.
But they always had it. They just never gave themselves permission to use it.

Most limitations are just untested assumptions.

Question the ceilings. Test the assumptions.
You’ll probably discover you’ve had the ability all along.

An interesting question to sit with:
What limitation are you currently living with that is, in fact, just a belief?

The best CEOs I know have shorter to-do lists than you.

A perk of my work is getting an intimate look into the habits and systems of leaders across the world.

And something I've noticed about the best CEOs isn't what they do. It's what they decide NOT to do.

Most people let their to-do list become infinite. They pack in as much as possible, check off what they can, and roll everything else forward. The list never ends. And they wear it like a badge of honor.

But here's what they're avoiding: The confrontation of choice.

Saying "I'm not going to do this thing" feels permanent and final. Like you're actively choosing failure in that area.

And that's uncomfortable.

So instead, people keep everything on the list. They tell themselves, "I'll get to it eventually" and avoid the psychological weight of consciously letting something die.

The best CEOs do the opposite.

They stack rank their tasks by importance, look at their calendar, and slot only what will fit. Then they consciously move everything else to next week's list, or kill it entirely.

The result? They finish their work most days. And they get exceptionally good at one of the most important skills in leadership, which is saying no to important things.

Because here's the truth…

Your workload never decreases as you grow. You just get better at leading. And having less time forces you to delegate, empower your people, and build your organization instead of just working harder.

Your to-do list is a daily training ground for this.

Every day, you're forced to confront what dies so something more important can live.

That confrontation is the work.

Not the hustle of doing more, not the performance of appearing busy.

The discipline of doing what counts. And ruthlessly eliminating what doesn't.

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Scaling a company means giving away the work you used to take pride in.

Watch and listen to why that moment is harder than most founders expect.

I once heard a story that stayed with me.

A little girl walks through a garden for the first time. It was overwhelmingly beautiful, and
she runs inside to tell her mother.

Her mother smiles. “Those are pretty flowers, aren’t they?”
The next day, the girl returns to the garden… and sees “pretty flowers.”

The label stripped the magic. It flattens wonder into familiarity.

I catch myself doing this in business.
A group of complex, brilliant, unpredictable humans becomes “the sales team.”
Or “engineering.”

And without realizing it, I narrow how I see them.

Abstraction isn’t wrong. It’s essential.
But every so often, a moment of awe — in nature, in conversation, in work — reminds
me:

Reality is always richer than the words we use to contain it.

I’m doing my best to remember that.

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Have had the pleasure and privilege of getting to know Ryan, and +1 to all this

Founder/CEO at HealthBar | Healthcare Delivery & Payor Model Innovator/Entrepreneur/RN

If you don't know Ryan Cummins, you absolutely need to make it a priority!


Having Ryan close our 'Health'care 2026 conference with a keynote address is going to be engaging and empowering

The work he's doing is absolutely incredible 

His curiosity to learn is unmatched

And his focus on future generations is inspiring.....


Don't miss an opportunity to hear from, and meet Ryan at 'Health'care 2026!

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Gavin is an Asia-based executive search leader specializing in AI, technology, and PE/VC-backed companies, helping founders and investors build high-performing leadership teams across Southeast Asia and Greater China.

With over two decades of experience, Gavin partners with PE/VC funds and fast-growing technology ventures to build world-class leadership teams across North Asia, Southeast Asia, and Greater China. His work spans technology, consumer tech, AI, and digital transformation, with mandates from Series A through pre-IPO.

Gavin collaborates closely with global investors and their portfolio companies, including:
• PEs: L Catterton, Permira, EQT, CVC, Carlyle
• VCs: Sequoia, Lightspeed, Qiming Ventures, NLVC, Cathay Capital, New Horizons

Outside of executive search, Gavin is also an investor, founder, and executive coach, guiding leaders through personal reinvention, mindset development, and navigating growth with clarity and self-awareness.

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You never feel ready — that’s exactly when you should start.

Readiness is a mirage.
It appears just far enough ahead to keep you waiting.

Most aspiring founders don’t stall because they lack ideas or talent.
They stall because they’re waiting for certainty — the right timing, the right confidence, the right signal.

But confidence doesn’t precede action.
It follows it.

Forward motion creates clarity.
Clarity builds confidence.
Not the other way around.

This is why people who “feel ready” often move slower than those who simply begin.
The latter learn in public, adjust in motion, and let evidence replace anxiety.

If you’ve been waiting to start, try this today:

🧭 1. Choose one small, imperfect action
Something you can complete without overthinking.

🔍 2. Lower the standard, raise the speed
Progress beats polish at the beginning.

🧠 3. Treat action as an experiment
You’re gathering data, not proving worth.

⚡ 4. Act before confidence shows up
Confidence is the lagging indicator.

📌 5. Reflect after you move, not before
Learning happens in motion.

You don’t start because you’re ready.
You get ready because you start.

Gavin

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Executive Search Leader | Founder | Investor | Coach

Your 20s don’t define your 40s.

They may show indications -  
but they don’t determine what comes next.

By this stage, most professionals aren’t short on experience.
They’re short on permission — permission to evolve beyond the version of themselves that once worked.

Career reinvention rarely happens by accident.
It happens quietly, deliberately, and usually long before the job title changes.

The people who reinvent well in mid-career don’t abandon their past.
They reinterpret it.

They stop treating their career as a single narrative
and start managing it like a portfolio —
carrying forward what compounds, letting go of what no longer serves, and intentionally adding new capabilities before necessity forces their hand.

Research in adult development and career mobility consistently shows that successful mid-career transitions are driven less by role changes and more by new skill accumulation.
The internal shift precedes the external move.

If reinvention is on your mind, it doesn’t require a dramatic reset.
It requires a measured, strategic one.

For the next quarter, consider this:

🧭 1. Identify one capability worth developing
Something adjacent to your existing strengths, not a rejection of them.

🔍 2. Consider where it changes your long-term optionality
Which doors does it quietly open over time?

📚 3. Invest in depth, not volume
One skill, learned properly, outperforms five explored casually.

🧠 4. Apply it in low-risk settings
Private projects, advisory roles, side initiatives — before formal transitions.

🔁 5. Review with detachment
Progress is easier to see when emotion is removed.

Reinvention in your 40s isn’t about starting over.
It’s about starting with intention — and perspective.

- Gavin

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Habits beat inspiration every time.

Not because motivation doesn’t matter —
but because motivation is often the result, not the cause.

Most people wait to feel motivated before they act.
Experienced builders learn the opposite: action creates motivation.

There’s solid behavioral evidence behind this.
Research in behavioral psychology (including studies on habit formation and self-efficacy) consistently shows that small, repeatable actions increase confidence and intrinsic motivation over time, even when initial motivation is low.
In other words: progress creates belief — not the other way around.

That’s why motivation spikes after momentum begins.

A small habit completed today produces evidence.
Evidence restores belief.
Belief fuels motivation.

When things are going well, motivation feels natural.
When things stall, motivation disappears.
Habits are what bridge that gap.

They don’t rely on mood.
They manufacture forward motion.

This is why repeatable actions matter more than bursts of energy.
Daily reviews.
Short customer conversations.
One focused planning block.

These aren’t productivity tricks.
They’re motivation generators.

If you want motivation that doesn’t depend on how you feel, try this:

🧭 1. Identify one action that reliably creates progress
Not the biggest task — the one that consistently moves the needle.

🔁 2. Make it daily and deliberately small
Small enough that resistance stays low on bad days.

⏱️ 3. Fix it to the same time or trigger
Consistency trains expectation — and reduces friction.

✍️ 4. Track completion, not outcome
Momentum comes from showing up before results appear.

🔒 5. Let motivation catch up
Don’t wait for it. Build the conditions for it.

Motivation fades.
Habits create proof.

And proof is what keeps founders moving forward.

- Gavin

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Most people think progress is driven by motivation.

That’s why they wait for it.

But motivation is the smallest slice of the pie.

What actually moves your life forward is far less exciting, and far more reliable.

It’s what you do daily.
It’s whether you show up again tomorrow.
It’s what you pay attention to when no one is watching.

I’ve seen this pattern repeat itself for years.

The people who grow steadily aren’t the most inspired.
They’re the most consistent.

They don’t rely on how they feel.
They design how they behave.

Here’s the perspective shift most people miss.

Motivation gets you started.
Habits decide where you end up.

But quiet things compound.

That’s why progress often feels unfair.

Some people look disciplined.
In reality, they just made better defaults.

Here’s how to apply this in a practical way.

👇 If you want real progress, focus here 👇

🔁 1. Design one daily habit
Pick something small enough that you can’t talk yourself out of it.
If it relies on motivation, it’s too big.

📅 2. Protect consistency over intensity
Doing something at 60% every day beats 100% once a week.
Miss the drama, keep the rhythm.

🎯 3. Narrow your focus
Progress accelerates when attention isn’t scattered.
Choose one priority that deserves your best energy.

🌱 4. Shape your environment
Make the right action easier and the wrong one harder.
Your surroundings are quietly training you.

🔥 5. Use motivation as a bonus, not a plan
Enjoy it when it shows up.
Just don’t depend on it to carry you.

This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about doing the right small things, long enough for them to matter.

Which habit, if done daily, would change your trajectory the most?

- Gavin

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Your morning shapes your momentum.

Not your entire routine.
Not your productivity system.
Just the first 10 minutes.

How you start is how you scale your focus.
A rushed beginning trains your brain to react.
A calm beginning trains it to choose.

Neuroscience research shows that the brain’s prefrontal cortex—responsible for focus, decision-making, and self-control—is most influential early in the day, before cognitive load and stress accumulate.

Studies in clinical psychology also show that brief morning rituals reduce cortisol levels and improve sustained attention across the workday

In short: early structure shapes the brain’s attention.

Action — define your first 10 minutes 👇

Here’s a simple, realistic take on:

🫁 1. Breathe (1–2 min)
Slow, intentional breathing to settle your nervous system.

🧭 2. Name one intention (2 min)
Not a to-do list. One sentence: “Today, I choose to focus on ___.”

📝 3. Choose one priority (3 min)
The one thing that would make the day feel meaningful—even if nothing else gets done.

🚫 4. Delay input (3 min)
No email. No messages. No news. Protect your attention before you spend it.

That’s it.
No apps. No perfection. Just clarity.

You don’t need a better day.
You need a better start.

- Gavin

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