Debash Football Club

Debash Football Club (July 2022 - Present)

✅ Participated in 56 games for Debash Football Club, gaining valuable experience and contributing to the team's success.


✅ Scored 28 goals, highlighting goal-scoring prowess and the ability to make an impact in the attacking third.


✅ Recorded 16 assists, showcasing exceptional playmaking abilities and the willingness to create opportunities for teammates.

Professional Football Player

Paloshi Empire

Founder

Almar Football club

Almar Football Club (Feb 2021- July 2022)

✅ Played 42 games for Almar Football Club, showcasing consistent performancei and dedication to the team.


✅ Scored 31 goals, demonstrating strong attacking skills and the ability to find the back of the net.


✅ Provided 10 assists, displaying excellent vision and playmaking abilities to create scoring opportunities for teammates.

I began my football journey as a young child, around the age of 3 or 4. It quickly became my source of joy and comfort, surpassing all other childhood games. I excelled in the sport and developed a natural talent. As I grew older, football became my true passion and my ultimate ambition was to play for the world's top clubs.

To pursue my dreams, I made the decision to join Debash Football Academy, a prestigious academy in Ogun State, Nigeria. I underwent rigorous training to prepare myself for the immense challenges ahead. I primarily played as a winger, capable of being effective on both sides of the field. Additionally, I showcased great skills as an attacking midfielder and received training in the art of a deep-lying midfielder. My versatility allowed me to adapt to various positions in the forward line and midfield, with the exception of the defensive midfielder role.

Over the years, I have had the opportunity to participate in trials with some of the best clubs worldwide, including Istanbul Spor, Besiktas U-21, and others. Although contract negotiations fell through due to minor setbacks, I remain determined to prove myself and pursue my dreams relentlessly. Currently, I am back in Nigeria, working harder than ever before, dedicating myself to achieving peak physical and mental condition in order to pursue my goal.

I’m a mission to become the first soccer prospect to get an international offer on LinkedIn. I’m open to international opportunities.

If you’ve got a project for me or you want me to be part of your project, kindly reach out to me on WhatsApp via +2348961785792 or send an email to rufaiolawale14@gmail.com.

Rufai Olawale Ayomide

Empowered Families LLC

Providing coaching for parents to help them become more connected and fulfilled in their most important relationships.

Co-Founder

Michael Anderson Coaching

Helping Leaders find freedom from self doubt & limitations so they can live boldly, lead powerfully, and be deeply present in their relationship

Renew Relationship Counseling

Marriage And Family Therapist

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

Seminaries & Institute Teacher for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

LDS Seminary & Institute Teacher (Part-TIme)

Intermountain Healthcare

Community Outreach Intern

Missionary Training Center

Teacher

Unite For Sight

Global Impact Fellow

Patient Experience Intern

Helping Families Experience Deeper Connection | Published children's book series on mental health | I speak to organizations about mental health and strengthening relationships

I'm a therapist and coach helping young parents to heal and reconnect - with each other, with their kids, and with themselves.

As a therapist, I'm trained in mindfulness and trauma-healing. As a coach, I bring those skills to the table to help people become who they want to be.

I offer:

- Individual coaching to help you overcome stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, and help you to rewire your mind to transform how you view yourself and others 

- Couples Coaching to help you and your partner experience deeper fulfillment, heal past and current wounds, and learn how to show up for each other as the partner you want to be

- Porn recovery coaching for men who finally want the tools and resources to rewire their brains, process urges, and get to the root at what keeps them stuck so they can be the man, husband, and father they were always meant to be

If you have questions about how the process works, then DM me or book a free 30-minute call. I'm also just a nice guy (what can I say), and would love to talk.

Michael Anderson

All good if I celebrate with you all for a sec?

Spotify Wrapped for Unbound and it turns out it's more popular than 85% of new shows 🙏

To think I started this year just recording voice memos into my phone and posting it on Spotify 

No intro
No editing 

Just me talking on my drives home 

I knew if I waited until the perfect moment, I'd never start 

So I just decided to START 

Now, it's got a fancy intro and editing 

But that was built along the way


Big thank you to everyone who has listened, shared it, rated it. 

And to those who are waiting for the perfect moment to start 

Right now, messy, unfinished... THAT is the perfect moment to start 

Rooting for you ✌️

Helping Husbands & Fathers Break Free From Pornography In 90 Days | DM “Freedom” to Get Started

sometimes Im like, "I've really got my life figured out."

and then sometimes I have to hold both hands up and see which one makes an "L" to tell my rights and lefts 

so go easy on yourself for not being perfect 

you're in good company

One conversation with my 5-year-old changed my life

And reminded me why Repair is SO important in parenting

He had a rough night.

Not listening
Throwing fits
Being unkind to siblings

I was handling it in a... less-than-stellar way
(we'll just leave it at that)

He finally said sadly, "You hate me..."

I was pretty fired up already so I just kinda moved on

Finally, after we put the kids to bed

I went back to him and snuggled up to him in bed

I told him I loved him and he said...

"Sometimes I just feel like I'm bad...
I always make mistakes."

I tried to apologize for getting frustrated and he said...

"You are perfect. I'm the one who makes bad choices"


I paused.

I told him that I sometimes feel like I'm bad inside too

And that it's normal to feel that way

And in those moments, I try to remember 

That I can choose to be kind to myself

I then told him that him having a hard time listening is NORMAL at his age

And that I am working on not getting so frustrated when it happens

You should have seen how RELIEVED he was to find out he was normal


You see, HERE IS WHY REPAIR IS SO IMPORTANT 
(Sorry for the ALL CAPS)

Young kids will try to make sense as to WHY they are getting yelled at

And to them, our relationship with them is EVERYTHING 

And so when we yell or punish them

Their brain does not see US as the problem

Their brain sees THEMSELVES as the problem

"My mom and dad are perfect, it HAS to be ME."

THEM being the villain is actually less scary for them...

Than if WE were the villain

So when I told my son he was normal and that I was working on myself

It brought incredible relief to him


We pinky promised each other that we would both keep working on ourselves

He then did something I hope I never forget...

He made me pinky promise that I would hold him no matter how old he got

And man am I wanting to make good on that promise

Repair is important because its a way for kids to understand

That nothing is wrong with THEM

They don't need to internalize shame
They don't need to doubt their goodness

They ARE good
They ARE enough

I am so grateful that secure relationships are not built on perfection

They are built on Repair

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I'm Michael Anderson

I help husbands and fathers overcome pornography in 90 days

Not through sheer willpower or weird accountability 

But by helping them transform their mindsets and their relationships 

January cohort is open 

DM me if you want in 

You can do this

A huge part of the Unbound Cohort is going through the 21-day reset.

21 days to reset your reward system and each day has trainings and exercises rooted in mindfulness and emotion processing 

It's pretty intense, but it's awesome.

Wanted to share a client win from his most recent 21-day reset

Guys, I'm telling you, making real progress is absolutely possible

Stoked for this client. 

Seriously just love the heck out of him 

Anyone so dang happy for him???

DM me if you want this too

I can help you

Big thanks to Silicon Slopes for having me on the pod.

Talked about some deeply important things 

Healthy relationships
Trauma healing 
And prepping for the emotional challenges of the holidays

Do me a favor and give it a listen

Link is in the comments 

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I help men do their inner work so they can show up more powerfully for their families 

If that's a journey you're wanting to go on 

Then DM me and let's talk

I can help you

Alright, I'm just gonna throw this out there 

The Jonas Brothers Christmas Movie is actually pretty darn good 

🎄🎅🎸

I help men heal from pornography, and it's the most rewarding thing in the world 

Cause to be honest, healing has almost nothing to do with the pornography 

And almost EVERYTHING to do with helping men:

Heal inner wounds 
Love themselves deeply 
Become emotionally healthy 
Become more still and present 

Cause at the end of the day, it's these things that are keeping men from showing up more powerfully for their spouse, their kids, their career, you name it 


Was talking with a client who said:

"I'm always scared that I don't deserve good things. I doubt myself all the time, and I beat myself up ..

...It's awful."

He was stressed 
He was overwhelmed 

And so he used pornography as a way to deal with it all temporarily 

And he had tried for years to just STOP 

"This is stupid." He would say to himself. "I'm DONE."

But he would slip back into old cycles again and again 

When we first started meeting, I told him:

"We're gonna do something different. Youve spent your whole life running from yourself.

And now? We're gonna help you face these parts of you.

With compassion and curiosity."


THAT is what finally allows you to HEAL


I help clients find stillness 

I help clients learn how to FEEL without running 

I help clients to learn how to find Connection 


I had the thought the other day...

What if I could take the principles I teach my 1:1 clients and put it into a Challenge that helps men to:

reset their dopamine 
heal limiting beliefs 
outgrow pornography 
and step into the man they truly are?


And boom...Unbound: The 21 Day Reset Challenge was born


Here's what I FIRMLY believe:

Any man can heal

Most men just aren't given the right tools
...I know that's cliche to say, but it's true 

Unbound is meant to finally give you those tools 

If that's a journey you're ready to go on, 

then DM me and let's talk

I can help you

Helping Husbands & Fathers Break Free & Show Up More Powerfully For Their Families | My Podcast Will Teach You How | Listen in Featured 👇

Parents don’t realize this, but the way they talk to their kid about porn often creates the very secrecy they’re terrified of.

And I watched this play out in real time with a mom who desperately wanted to “fix” her son.

Back when I was doing lots of family therapy, a parent came in asking for help with her son’s pornography use.

“He’s addicted to his phone and I don’t know how to help him.”

I met with them a handful of times and watched how they interacted.

The son would start to open up
and then she’d jump in.

“You are ruining your life.”
“You could get arrested someday.”
“Why won’t you listen to me?”

Her anxiety shut him down inch by inch.

Eventually he didn’t want to talk to her at all.

One session, I paused her and said:

“Look, the issue here isn’t ‘how do we get your son to stop?’
The real issue is this: how do we help you navigate this so that in ten years, your son still wants a relationship with you?”

She laughed nervously.

A couple weeks later she called saying they’d found a new therapist.

And look, I have a ton of compassion for this mom.
This isn’t about shaming her.
It’s about highlighting a principle most parents never consider.

Ninety percent of helping our kids with pornography and tech use comes down to how we manage our own anxiety around it.

Our kids download our anxiety.
They internalize it as:
“Man, I’m really scaring Mom and Dad. I can’t bring this to them.”

So they hide it.
They believe something is wrong with them.
Shame takes over their internal world.

The antidote is connection.
Real, grounded, safe connection. 

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I'm Michael Anderson 

I help men break Free in 90 days through my Unbound program and framework 

No shame. No weird accountability.

Just neuroscience and transforming your relationships 

January cohort is open

DM me if you're wanting to break free

I can help you

One of the key principles I teach the men in Unbound is 'durability.'

The ability to make space for your partner's emotions 

Without the need to change them

Can we hear our partners pain and not make it about our pain

Can we hear our partners share how we've hurt them and not get sucked into our own wounds 


Couples who can be durable are couples who can experience deep connection 

Even IN the pain 

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I'm Michael Anderson 

I help men overcome pornography - not through sheer willpower or weird accountability - but by helping them transform their mindset and their relationships 

If you're wanting to do that deep work then DM me

I can help you

It's Enrollment week. 

Pretty exciting.

3 calls booked so far, 2 more in the works

And it's only Monday.

THIS week is your shot to get enrolled

10 spots available for December's cohort. And when they are filled, they are filled.

This work is deeply personal to me. 

NOTHING is more important to me than the role of husband and father 

I can help you finally make real lasting progress overcoming this behavior 

Not because we count days and use weird accountability 

But because we use neuroscience 

If you're done trying to figure this out on your own

Then let's take the journey!

This is a video on my IG, so there is no link to tap on

So DM me for more details

We'll set up a call this week 

Rooting for you

This work is the coolest

On our last group call, I told the guys that they were some of the best men I've ever met

And I meant it 

These are men who love their wives, their kids, and who genuinely want to lift each other up 

This is enrollment week for December's cohort 

After this week, you'll have to wait until January

DM me and let's talk if you're ready to finally be done with this 

Rooting for you

If you've ever wondered about what it means to forgive, here are some thoughts from a recent conversation I had with Dr. David T. Morgan, PhD from Silicon Slopes 

With the holiday season being a time of many family gatherings, it can be a confusing time for a lot of people. 

Hopefully these thoughts give a little bit of peace as you navigate difficult relationships 

Full episode is in the comments

Reason 1 - Because there are literally hundreds of thousands of men all around us struggling thinking they are ALONE. Men need to know they aren't bad, or gross, or weak. And they CAN overcome it 

Reason 2 - Nothing - and I mean NOTHING - can compare to the peace that comes from experiencing deep connection in your marriage. The dopamine rush of a screen can trick us into thinking the screen is as good as it could ever get. NOT. TRUE. AT. ALL. 

Reason 3 -  There is TERRIBLE advice out there. Most men are getting "tips" from reddit threads which just make things worse. Men deserve to get the right strategies, cause the right strategies can create rapid change 

Reason 4 - P*rn destroys our healthy masculinity that our family needs. Children need fathers who are present, grounded, powerful. Wives deserve a husband who is fully in and an equal partner. It's not a man's fault that his brain got hijacked at a young age - but it is now his responsibility to do something about it

Honestly, I get that making this my mission opens me up to hateful comments sometimes. But it's worth it.

Because the men who are wanting to show up powerfully for their families? I love and respect them deeply. 


If you're ready to go on this journey and start making rapid progress, then DM me and lets get started.

Guarantee you don't need another hack
You don't need another self help book 
You don't need a bullet-proof routine 
You don't need to get shredded 

If you're chasing external stuff hoping to finally feel peace 

I promise you what you need is to learn how to stop running from yourself 

And learn how to heal what's going on inside 

Before you do that? None of that external stuff even matters

After you do that? External stuff feels sweeter

Cause for the first time in your life, you didn't NEED it

You already have all of the acceptance and love you need 

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I'm Michael Anderson 

I help husbands and fathers overcome pornography - not through sheer willpower or weird accountability - but through helping them transform their mind and their relationships

If you've felt stuck 

Then I can help you 

DM me and let's talk

Do not - I repeat - do NOT work with me if...

you're into quick fixes 
don't want to dive deep 
would rather not get pushed 
love staying comfortable 

I care WAY too much about my clients to let them stay stagnant 

Or to give them quick tips 

Or to let them stay comfortable and leave deep change on the table 

Cause this isn't about stopping a behavior 

This is about transforming how you show up for your family 

How you show up for yourself 

This is about, maybe for the first time, deeply accepting yourself 

And not feeling the need to escape yourself 

This is about coming to the point where you no longer worry about what others think of you

Cause YOU want you... and so the opinions of others don't matter 

This is about experiencing deep connection with your spouse 

Cause you know how to lean in and experience vulnerability, rather than run to escape 

You learn how to experience real connection? And you'll start outgrowing the damaging behaviors you thought you were stuck with forever 

December cohort of Unbound Freedom launches soon

90 days
Group coaching 
Daily exercises 
Dopamine Reset 
Curriculum rooted in long-term change 


Plus a years access within the community 

To help you cement what you experienced and what you became 

We don't mess around in Unbound 😎

DM me for more details 

There's room for YOU

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