Nicholas Kittis                                             ✪ Business & Transformational Coach

Recently, someone asked me what sets me apart from other coaches. My answer is that I am first and foremost a human being, just like you. I have gone through the same struggles and continue to work on myself every day. I do not claim to have all the answers, nor do I believe that I have figured everything out.
However, I am committed to making progress and making a difference in people's lives. Through my journey, I have gained knowledge, credentials, and experience that have given me a comprehensive perspective. My approach to coaching is unique because it addresses all aspects of my clients' lives. I believe that at any moment, we have the opportunity to change our lives, bodies, and minds.

While credentials are important, I believe that the most crucial "credential" when working with clients is the connection. I strive to establish meaningful connections with all my clients, and I am delighted when they feel supported and connected to me. That is where the real magic happens.

Nicholas is a highly experienced and fully qualified hotelier with over 30 years of experience in the hospitality industry. He has held senior management positions with Aphrodite Hills Resort for the past 14 years, managing an enterprise of over €25M. He is recognized as a business leader with a wealth of insight into business turnarounds and growth.
Nicholas has a proven record of accomplishment in managing all aspects of a hotel and resort's operation, focusing on business turnarounds, revenue generation, profit protection, and operational standards to achieve desired profitability returns on investment. He is comfortable and enthusiastic about leading new corporate ideas and integrating separate business elements and team members to achieve desired results. He leads by example and is a team player, motivating colleagues to generate growth in confidence and nurture their commitment. Nicholas coaches with an outcome-focused style, empowering clients to find solutions with tools and trust.

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Helping Stressed Hoteliers (CEO’s, Owners, Founders, Executives, Team Leaders) Bounce Back From The Pandemic To Profits By Increasing Occupancies, Retaining and Attracting new talent, Maximizing Revenues, Maintaining Assets And Brand Equity  To Keep Investors and Stockholders Happy.

Business Growth Coach

Aphrodite Hills Hotel - Atlantica Hotels & Resorts (Official Page)

As General Manager my responsibilities are to coordinate the efforts of the Hotel, Village Square Restaurants and the Retreat Spa. This mainly reflects on preparing the relevant budgets, monitoring P&L thus achieving GOP and achieving customer satisfaction. Other duties also involve collaborating with the Resort elements mangers on a daily basis to ensure a smooth operation on the Resort.

General Manager

Aphrodite Hills Hotel

Executive Assistant Manager I/C Resort Operations

Aphrodite Hills

Spa Director

Aphrodite Hills Resort

Resort Operations Manager

Columbia Resort

Resort Manager

Are you a hotel executive feeling the weight of burnout and yearning for renewed vitality?

The read on and see how I can help....

Tell me if this sounds familiar to you:

- You are a CEO or Execuitve
- You are good at what you do
- You navigate the demands and pressures of your role
- Despite your commitment, you're starting to feel the strain of burnout.
  
But....

- Your self-care and fitness falls flat
- You career is killing you because your life is in shambles
- You're keenly aware that this lifestyle isn't sustainable
- You have tried different methods - but nothing sticks

The worst part?

You know that to grow, you need to do something different, but you don't know where to begin.

A bit about me:

🌟 With over 35 years in hospitality, I've experienced the highs and lows of executive life, starting as one of the youngest GMs.

My Journey: I've lived it. My life was once chaotic—overwhelmed, burnt out, with no work-life balance. I've endured panic attacks, divorce, and health issues. I understand the toll of burnout firsthand.

Today...

- My Transformation: Overcame burnout and thrived through trial and error.
- Expertise in holistic well-being from personal journey.
- Guiding others toward lasting transformation by prioritizing health and well-being.

When we work together:

🔍 Develop a personalized holobody roadmap designed to help you navigate the unique challenges of the hotel industry while prioritizing your health and well-being.
🎯 Integrate fitness routines, mindfulness practices, and stress management techniques into your daily routine to enhance your resilience and vitality.
💰 Optimize your performance and productivity by ensuring your holobody remains at the forefront of your priorities.
🔮 Co-create a vision for your future—one where you excel in your professional endeavors while enjoying a fulfilling and balanced lifestyle.

HOW TO CONNECT:

📈 Holobody Strategy Call. Gain clarity on your holobody goals and discover actionable steps to reclaim your vitality and performance.

💥 Personalized Holobody Program: Together, we overhaul your life by developing a tailored program  specifically to your needs, with ongoing support and guidance every step of the way.

🚀 Join Our Exclusive Holobody Community: Connect with like-minded hotel executives committed to prioritizing their holobody and achieving peak performance.

📅 Limited Availability: I reserve space for a select number of clients each month. Ready to prioritize your holobody and unlock your full potential? Book a free call :https://calendly.com/comechangewithme/holobody

Nicholas Kittis

If you think working harder is how you show love to your kids… 

you need to hear this

Helping you heal the wounds that block Love, Wealth and Vitality

You fake it every single day.

"How are you?"

"I'm good! You?"

Liar.

You're not good.

You're:
→ Barely holding it together
→ One bad thing away from breaking
→ Faking every smile
→ Pretending you're fine
→ Dying inside

But you can't tell them that.

Because then they'll ask questions.

And you'll have to admit:

"I'm not okay. I haven't been okay for a long time."

So you smile.

You say "I'm good."

You perform "normal."

And you go home and collapse.

The performance is exhausting.

Pretending you're fine when you're falling apart.

Acting strong when you're breaking.

Smiling when you're screaming inside.

How long can you keep this up?

Your body knows the truth.

Even if no one else does.

You're not fine.

And pretending is killing you.

Who's exhausted from faking it?

Comment "EXHAUSTED" below.

#mentalhealth #pretending #burnout #fakingit #stress #notokay

Connector of Talent and Success 💼 | Empowering Businesses to Thrive through People | Culture Growth Strategist | Coach | Writer | HR leader | #1 LinkedIn Belgium | Top #150 LinkedIn 🌍

Who I help: Ambitious introverts and people-first companies

Problems: Visibility without burnout, quiet leadership, culture that enables deep work

Outcomes: Promotions, role transitions, retention, high-trust cultures

STRATEGIC HR LEADER AND COACH WITH HANDS-ON APPROACH AIMING FOR THE BEST EMPLOYEE/BUSINESS EXPERIENCE - INTROVERT ADVOCATE

International HR Executive passionate about the link between employee experience and business dynamics. Combining a strong focus on strategic thinking and planning with a structured and factual hands-on approach. A positive well connected team coach with a natural sense of empowering team members in a spirit of challenge, learning and mutual recognition. Sound decision making capabilities based on critical reflections within companies focusing on innovation, change, digital transformation and learning.

A. Group HR Director Alter Pharma (200 FTE - BE/IRL/US) – private equity backed firm defining & implementing HR strategy (from strategy to operations) including definition of mission/vision/strategy & values.
B. Global HR Business Partner BU Kerley international/Tessenderlo Group (+/-300 employees - 11 countries) developing/transforming key HR processes (talent resource planning, talent acquisition, performance management, competency management, learning, reward,..) - HR project lead new factory Rouen, France. 
C. Global HR Executive SWIFT (+/- 3.000 employees in +25 countries) transforming/coaching business and HR into new ways of (digital) working/thinking to improve the employee and business experience 
D. Global Head of Reward Tessenderlo Group (+/- 5.000 employees in +25 countries) - strategic development/transformation reward strategy
E. Development new holistic performance management framework for Tessenderlo Group, including full implementation recognition stream.
F. HR Project Manager : move of the Chiquita EME Headquarters from Belgium to Switzerland (social plan negotiations, c&b setup, recruitment, mobility, new policy/process design,...)

Professional coaching certification Better Minds at Work               2018 - 2019
Centre for Creative Leadership - senior leadership program           Q1-2 2018
Management Development Programme Vlerick (17 days)		  2010 - 2011
Strategic Compensation & Benefits Management, Vlerick 		  2007      
Master degree in Law&Taxation, Katholieke Universiteit Leuven    1997 - 1998

Steven Claes

They told me I was too much.
Turns out they were too small.

I sat with a brilliant CHRO last week who said: "Steven, I've spent 15 years softening my opinions, slowing down, pretending I don't need depth in conversations when that's literally all I want."

I knew exactly what she meant.

I've done it myself.

Edited my directness down to "diplomatic."
Rounded edges to seem "approachable."
Acted like small talk filled me up when I was starving for real conversation.

And I ended up feeling like I didn't belong.

Because I REALLY DIDN'T belong in places where I'd made myself smaller just to fit in.

The pond people have told me I'm:

→ Too quiet (translation: you're hard to read, and that makes me uncomfortable)
→ Too direct (translation: you skip all the performance, and I don't know how to handle that)
→ Too intense (translation: you make me think, and I'd rather not)
→ Too ambitious in the "wrong way" (translation: you want actual impact, not just visibility)

But here's what 20 years as a CHRO taught me: Every time you edit yourself down, you teach people to expect less from you.

When you're constantly shrinking:
→ You attract relationships that need you small
→ You become an expert at being less than you are
→ You build a career that fits everyone except you

I used to think the introvert advantage was learning to network like an extrovert. Speaking up more. Being more visible.

Wrong.

The real advantage? Accepting that your need for substance IS your worth.

When I stopped apologizing for needing substance over surface, everything changed.

1️⃣ You stop dimming yourself to make others comfortable in their mediocrity.

2️⃣ You surround yourself with people who recognize that your intensity is your integrity.

3️⃣ You finally find your tribe. The ones who see thoughtfulness as strength, not something to overcome.

The teams who needed someone to sit with complexity? They leaned on me.
The cultures desperate for real leadership? They sought me out.

But only because I was actually there. At full capacity. Not the edited version.

Not everyone can handle your full capacity.
And that's not your problem to solve.

The people meant for you? They'll charter a boat to meet you in deep water, even if they can't swim.

The rest will stand on the shore telling you the ocean is "too much."

Let them.

If you're an ocean, stop apologizing for not being a pond.

If you're wired for substance, you don't have a career problem.
You have a boundary problem.

The moment you solve that, everything shifts.

♻️ Share if you're an ocean person refusing to be a pond

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Last week, my quietest team member apologized for joining our call from her kid's soccer practice.

She'd delivered three brilliant solutions that morning. 
From the sidelines. 
In complete silence.

I had to pause.

Have we really created workplaces where people apologize for living their lives while delivering great work?

What makes a team truly unstoppable?
It's not watching the clock.
It's removing the nonsense that blocks good people from doing their best thinking.

Let me be clear:

• I don't track when you log in
• I don't mind if your kid crashes our video call
• I don't care if you work from a coffee shop

Why?

Because I hired you.
Not your schedule.
Not your location.

Not your ability to sit still for 8 hours.

What I actually care about:

↳ The value you create
↳ The results you deliver
↳ The problems you solve

Traditional leadership still defaults to:
❌ Clock-watching
❌ Demanding face time
❌ Micromanaging every minute

What works better:
✅ Focus on outcomes
✅ Trust from day one
✅ Clear expectations

My 5 rules for high-performance teams:

1/ Hire for attitude
→ Skills can be taught. Character can't.

2/ Trust immediately
→ Do not make people "earn" basic respect.

3/ Protect deep work time
→ Introverts produce their best thinking in uninterrupted focus. That's where real solutions live.

4/ Provide resources
→ Give people the tools and context to win.

5/ Measure impact
→ Obsess over outcomes, not activity.

The reality?

Great work can happen anytime, anywhere.
Especially when introverts get space to think without performative presence.

Leaders do not just create followers.
They create more leaders.

Trust your people.
Give them space.
Watch what happens.

What's your take on trust-first leadership?

Curious to read your view in the comments.
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Every setback felt like proof I was too quiet to succeed.
Every win felt like luck.

At 32, my boss pulled me aside.
“You're too quiet for executive leadership.”

I replayed that conversation for months.
Every meeting I stayed quiet.
Every presentation I let others dominate.
Every networking event I left early.

The feedback stung because I believed it.

The lateral moves? I blamed myself for not being louder.
The passed-over promotions? Thought I didn’t sell myself enough.
The struggling projects? Maybe I was too introverted to lead.

I carried those stories for years.
Like stones in my pocket.
Getting heavier with each new challenge.

Then something shifted.

The promotions I didn’t get kept me learning.
Now I lead with knowledge, not just ambition.

The struggling projects taught me to listen for what wasn’t being said.
That skill transformed every team I touched.

What introverts do differently with setbacks:
 • We don’t bounce back. We build back.
 • We don’t forget feedback. We mine it for truth.
 • We don’t perform resilience. We develop it quietly.

What others saw as mistakes:
 → Avoided office politics (built trust through work)
 → Skipped self-promotion (let results speak louder)
 → Stayed in roles too long (mastered depth)
 → Took time to process (while others rushed to respond)

Today I’m CHRO.
Still quiet.
Those “setbacks” were my education.

Every introvert I’ve hired has a similar story.
Told they were too quiet.
Too thoughtful.
Too slow.

Now they’re running divisions.
Transforming cultures.
Leading quietly.

Your setbacks aren’t failures.
They’re data points.
Your quiet processing isn’t weakness.
It’s how you turn feedback into fuel.

That boss who said I was too quiet?
He was half right.
I was quiet.
But I was building.

💬 What feedback once hurt but later helped you grow?

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She outperformed everyone on her team.
They fired her anyway.

The reason?
"Lacks enthusiasm."

I've been labeled the same.
Quiet. Consistent. Easy to overlook.

After 20 years in leadership, I've decoded what "lacks enthusiasm" really means:

You don't perform your passion.
You just deliver excellence.

Real enthusiasm looks like:
• Showing up consistently
• Delivering work that matters
• Communicating with clarity
• Supporting without fanfare

Companies say they want this.

Then they promote:
• Volume over value
• Speed over strategy
• Visibility over results

I've watched talented introverts pushed out.
Not for missing deadlines. For missing happy hours.
Not for poor performance. For performing quietly.

The coded feedback always sounds reasonable:
"Needs more executive presence."
"Could be more vocal in meetings."
"Should network more actively."

Translation: Be someone else.

Truth is:
Excellence doesn't need to shout.
Impact doesn't chase attention.
Consistency beats charisma.

We lose our best people when we:
• Mislabel quiet as disengaged
• Require extroversion for advancement
• Confuse personality with contribution

Real engagement shows up in:
✓ The bugs you prevent that nobody notices
✓ The systems that run smoothly because of you
✓ The depth of your thinking
✓ The crisis you prevented in silence

Your quiet colleague who ships exceptional work every week?
More engaged than the one dominating every meeting.

The introvert who sends thoughtful follow-ups?
More useful than the one working the room.

Smart companies are catching on.
They measure contribution, not volume.
They value depth over performance.
They recognize different styles of excellence.

Still waiting for yours to catch up?

Your quiet strengths aren't the problem.
The system that can't see them is.

Don't shrink. Don't apologize. Don't fake enthusiasm you don't feel.

Real work doesn't need applause.
It needs respect.

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Stop trying to fix introverts.

In 20 years as an HR leader, I've seen companies burn millions trying to turn quiet leaders into loud ones.

It doesn't work. And it pushes your best people out the door.

Swipe through for what introverts need vs. what people think we need.

💾 Save/share this before your next 1:1. 

P.S. What would you add to this list?

What Workplaces Think Introverts Need vs What We Need

Some introverts are prisoners of their wiring.
Others are architects of their growth.

I’ve coached enough quiet leaders to see the split happen in real time:

The stuck ones hold on to: "I'm wired this way. I can't change."
The ones who thrive? They know wiring is where you begin, not where you end.

I worked with a senior manager who kept saying:
"I was raised to stay quiet and not make waves."

Fifteen years. That one sentence kept her invisible.
Passed over for promotions.
Watching louder colleagues move ahead.

And yet. In those same fifteen years, she'd:

-Led 3 projects that saved millions
-Built relationships nobody else could unlock
-Spotted problems that stayed invisible to everyone around her

Her quiet upbringing gave her the ability to observe. 
Deep listening became strategy. 
Her stillness earned trust.

The prison wasn't her introversion.
The prison was her story about it.

Evolution for introverts isn't about becoming extroverted.
It's about updating your story.

Instead of avoiding tough conversations 
→ Use email to drive decisions

Instead of dreading all meetings 
→ Own your 1-on-1s where depth wins

Instead of staying silent 
→ Put your thoughts on paper first, then speak

That senior manager I mentioned?
She stopped apologizing for how she works.
Started using her strengths.
Promoted six months later.

Same person. Different story.

Here's what this work taught me:

Your nature doesn't need fixing. 
Your story about it does.

Your past shaped you. 
Your choices reshape your future.

Your quiet traits aren't a limitation. They're data.

Stop waiting for permission to evolve.
Start choosing which parts of your wiring serve you.

Which story kept you quiet this week?

♻️ Share this with introverts ready to rewrite their story

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They told me to fix my introversion. 
I fixed my environment instead.

We're introverts. We're not broken, just wired differently.

I spent 20 years as a CHRO watching the same pattern play out. 
The loudest voices got heard while the deepest thinkers got ignored. 

Quick reactions got rewarded, and thoughtful strategies got buried under the noise.

That's when I realized something.

We don't need to compete on volume. No, we compete on depth.

We build fewer bonds but stronger connections. 
Not because we can't connect widely, but because we choose connection wisely. 

While others drain themselves chasing validation, we recharge in stillness. 
While they mistake noise for progress, we find power in pause.

This isn't weakness. It's strategy.

We're not hiding or afraid. 
We're protecting our energy for what actually matters.

The research backs what we've always known: 

• Introverted leaders see 40% higher team retention because we listen more than we talk 
• We outperform in complex problem-solving by 74% because we think before we act 
• Our deep work drives 3x more innovation because we focus on substance over speed

Depth beats width. Every time.

What I need you to understand:

➡️ Your need for constant stimulation isn't our problem. 
➡️ Your discomfort with silence isn't our emergency. 
➡️ And your definition of success isn't our blueprint.

If we let you in, you've earned it. 

Not through persistence or pressure, 
but through respect. 
Through substance. 
Through understanding that our boundaries aren't barriers, they're filters.

➡️ We're not antisocial, we're selectively social. 
➡️ We're not slow, we're thorough. 
➡️ We're not cold, we're careful.

In a world drowning in noise, that's not a limitation.

That's an advantage.

Stop trying to fix us. We were never broken.

What boundary have you set recently that protected your energy?

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They told us to "speak up more."
Turns out silence was our strategy.

As a CHRO who spent 20 years being called "too quiet," I've lived these traits. 

These are not personality quirks.
They're high-performance systems.

5 Weird Traits That Actually Drive Introvert High Performance:

1. Staying silent in meetings
↳ Builds strategic thinking muscle
↳ Catches critical details others miss
↳ Preserves mental energy for decisions that matter
↳ Creates space for deeper analysis

2. Preferring solo lunch breaks 
↳ Prevents decision fatigue before afternoon meetings
↳ Recharges cognitive batteries
↳ Maintains peak performance levels
↳ Protects creative thinking time

3. Pausing before responding 
↳ Delivers thoughtful responses instead of impulsive reactions
↳ Prevents costly communication mistakes
↳ Signals executive presence naturally
↳ Builds trust through consistency

4. Reviewing work multiple times 
↳ Catches errors before they compound
↳ Creates visible excellence standards
↳ Builds reputation for reliability
↳ Eliminates rework downstream

5. Requiring quiet time daily 
↳ Sparks breakthrough solutions
↳ Processes complex problems effectively
↳ Maintains competitive edge
↳ Protects sustainable performance

The brutal truth?

What they called weaknesses were actually our operating system. 

And once you own that system instead of apologizing for it, everything shifts.

Because here's what most companies miss: introverts are not broken. Extroverts don't need fixing. 

They're different processors who need different conditions.
Give them those conditions and watch what happens.

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Research reveals the introvert paradox: 
More productive. Lower performance ratings. 

A 2024 study by SOAS University of London found: 
"Introverts are more productive despite displaying lower job performance than extroverts." 

I've watched this disconnect destroy careers. 

As a CHRO for 20 years, I saw the pattern repeat itself over and over again. 
Claire outperformed every metric. 
Yet her evaluation said "lacks presence." 

Thomas designed the entire system architecture. 
His review noted "could be more vocal in meetings." 

The quiet frustration builds. 
The talent gets overlooked. 

The problem isn't your output. 
It's the visibility of your output. 

Introverts lose in three predictable scenarios: 

1. The visibility trap 
Your deep work happens in silence. 
Your contributions lack witnesses. 
Your impact goes unrecognized. 

2. The documentation gap 
Your wins stay in your head. 
Your progress lacks a paper trail. 
Your patterns remain invisible. 

3. The credit vacuum 
Your ideas travel. 
Your name gets left behind. 
Your influence goes unmeasured. 

But smart introverts don't try to become extroverts. 
They create systems to show their natural strengths. 

Four systems that actually work: 
1. Create your visibility rhythm 

→ Monday: Share your weekly focus (3 bullet points) 
→ Friday: Send a 5-minute wins report to stakeholders 
→ Monthly: Connect your work to company priorities 

2. Build your evidence file 

→ Capture metrics from your deep work sessions 
→ Save positive feedback verbatim 
→ Track resources saved through your solutions 

3. Set deep work boundaries 

→ Block 90-minute uninterrupted focus blocks 
→ Create canned responses for interruptions 
→ Set "office hours" for questions/collaboration 

4. Use strategic presence 

→ Speak once early in every meeting 
→ Send one thoughtful follow-up after discussions 
→ Ask one question that shows your listening depth 

When I coached Sarah, an introverted finance director, she started sending a weekly "impact email" every Friday at 4pm. 
Five bullet points. 
Three minutes to write. 

Her boss forwarded it to the C-suite every single week. 
She went from "too quiet" to "indispensable strategic partner" in six months. 

The only thing that changed? 
Her system, not her personality. 

Your introversion isn't the problem. 
Your strategic approach is the solution. 

Want to advance without exhaustion? 

Get the exact templates, scripts, and systems that helped thousands of introverts without burning out in the free A+ Introvert Newsletter (link in featured section). 

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The loudest voice shaped the room.
The quietest mind shifted the result.

And we still reward noise over what actually matters.

Here's the thing.

It is easy to see who talks the most.
Much harder to see who actually moves things forward.

Fast talkers set the agenda in meetings.
Quiet thinkers change the outcome after.

If you only track who reacts, who comments, who performs on stage...
you miss the people who unblock, refine, solve, ship.

So in your team:

👉 Look at what actually got done, not who kept the mic the longest.

🫶 Start giving credit to the ones who change the game quietly. They will not ask for it. Give it anyway.

♻️ Repost this for the quiet game-changers. They won't promote themselves, so we will.

Most introverts are quietly killing their careers.
By trying to speak like extroverts.

The problem is not how you speak.
It is how you prepare.

I spent years forcing spontaneity. Faking confidence. Every presentation drained me for days afterward.

Then I stopped competing on extroverts' terms.

Instead, I designed public speaking around my energy.

After 20 years as a CHRO, this much is clear:
Introverts can be exceptional speakers - if they use a different playbook.

I've helped many through this shift. The ones who stopped performing and started designing their talks with intention? They speak with more power. Less burnout.

This carousel breaks down 9 strategies introverts use to speak powerfully.

Without burning out.

♻️ Loud isn't the goal. Intentional is. Share if you agree.

💾 Save this for the next time you've got a talk coming up.

Most Introverts Are Quietly Killing Their Careers

Introverts don't need fixing.
Your workplace culture does.

I spent 20 years watching companies try to "fix" introverts.

Presentation skills workshops.
Open offices.
Loud happy hours.

Meanwhile, they ignored the real problems:
• Meetings that reward whoever talks most
• Brainstorms that silence deep thinkers
• "Collaboration" that means constant interruption

At 32, a VP told me:
"You need to speak up more. This quiet thing is career suicide."

I tried to be louder.
Until I realized: the mold was broken, not me.

Today I'm CHRO.
Still quiet. Still succeeding.
Because I stopped fixing myself and started fixing the system.

👇 This carousel breaks down what actually works.

♻️ Share if you believe quiet leadership deserves more respect and save for later.

Introverts Don't Need Fixing (Your Workplace Culture Does)

Your star performer left at 5 PM every day.

That wasn't a red flag.
That was a roadmap.

I used to stay until 8.
Sent emails at midnight.
Wore exhaustion like a badge.

Then I noticed something.

Sarah, our top analyst, packed up at 5 PM.
Every. Single. Day.

The execs whispered about her "lack of commitment."
Some people labeled her not a team player.

But six months later?
She delivered more value than our entire always-on team.

What they missed:
She wasn't coasting. She was focused.

• No 47-email chains about nothing
• No staying late just to be seen
• No 3-hour meetings that could've been an email
• No pretending to work while scrolling LinkedIn

Just deep, meaningful work.

After 5?
She recharged. Unplugged. Came back clearer.

While others ran on fumes.

What happened next changed how I led:

• The "lazy" analyst got promoted to Director
• One team member hit a wall and had to step back
• The always-on manager made critical mistakes

I learned something:
8 focused hours beat 12 exhausted ones.
Real productivity happens in bursts, not marathons.
Your best ideas come after rest, not during it.

I started telling my team:
→ Your best work happens when you're fresh
→ Creativity needs room to breathe
→ Burnout helps no one

The outcomes?

The exec who doubted her? Stress leave.
The always-on manager? Critical mistakes cost us a major client.
Sarah? Running the department.

Her worth was never in the hours.
It was in the outcomes.

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Overthinking costs you more than you realize.

Not in time.
In opportunities you never take.

Introverts know this trap better than anyone. Analysis becomes avoidance.

Five ways to close that gap:

1. The 5-Second Rule

Mel Robbins nailed it. You have an instinct to move? Count down 5-4-3-2-1 and go.

Your brain will talk you out of it otherwise.
That window closes fast. Five seconds. Use them.

———

2. The Two-Minute Rule

Takes less than two minutes? Do it now.
Don't add it to a list. Don't schedule it. Don't think about it.

David Allen's point: tracking a small task takes longer than finishing it.
Stop managing. Start finishing.

———

3. Brain Dump Before You Decide

Too much noise in your head? Set a timer for ten minutes. Write it all down.
No filter. No structure. Just out.

Once it's on paper, patterns appear. Priorities get clear.
You can't organize chaos while you're drowning in it.

———

4. Externalize the Problem

Stop saying "I'm an overthinker."
Say "Overthinking is here again."

See the difference? You're not the problem. The thought pattern is.
You're not the storm. You're the one watching it pass through.

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5. The "If-Then" Plan

Vague intentions don't work. Automatic actions do.

Try this:
"If it's 7am, then I write for 20 minutes."
"If I feel resistance, then I count 5-4-3-2-1 and start."

Peter Gollwitzer's research backs this. It doubles your success rate.
Pre-decide so you don't have to re-decide every time.

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The truth more introverts need to hear:
Knowing what to do means nothing if you don't do it.

Your move.

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A 23-year-old intern dismantled my entire hiring strategy with one question:

"But what if they're not comfortable talking about themselves?"

She was talking about introverts in interviews.

I'd been screening out brilliance for 5 years and had no idea.

I used to defend every view.
Debate every point.
Need to be right.

But that one quiet question changed everything.

It taught me something 10 years as CHRO hadn't:

Wisdom isn't about having the best answers.
It's about hearing the questions you never thought to ask.

Now when someone speaks, whether it's my CEO or my nephew, I do something different.

I pause.

Not to plan my response.
But to understand their world.

The 3-Question Framework I Use to Listen Deeper

1. What am I defending?
Before responding, name the ego or assumption you're protecting.
Then let it go.

2. What's their 10%?
Even if you disagree with 90%, find the 10% that's true.
There's always something. Start there.

3. What would I think if I were them?
Not with your experience. With theirs.
Not with your context. With theirs.
This is where breakthroughs live.

This shift changed how I lead:

→ I stopped mistaking volume for value
→ Started finding insight in silence
→ Learned that understanding > being understood

The data backs it up:

Teams with psychological safety where every voice matters are:

✔️ 76% more likely to engage
✔️ 50% more productive
✔️ 27% less likely to leave their jobs

But we still reward:

❌ Quick answers over thoughtful questions
❌ Confident assertions over curious pauses
❌ Debate winners over bridge builders

Your quietest team member isn't checked out.
They're checking angles you haven't considered.

That junior employee questioning your process?
Might be your next breakthrough.

Growth doesn't come from adding more of what you already know.
It comes from seeing what you've been blind to.

Perspective isn't just power.
It's the only path to wisdom that matters.

Try these 3 questions in your next meeting. Watch what shifts.

And tell me this:

💬 When did listening to someone completely different from you change everything?

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54% of employees are quietly breaking down.
You won’t see it until it’s too late.

Your best people aren’t quitting.
They’re not burning out.
They’re breaking. In silence.

And your quietest ones?
They’re drowning.

👉 Swipe to spot the signs before they disappear.

💾 Save this to revisit the warning signs.

♻️ Share it to support someone who's quietly cracking.

Warning Signs Everyone Misses (Means breaking)

Your best introvert is planning their exit. 
They just haven't told you yet.

Micromanaging says three things: 

"I don't trust you." 
"I need control more than results." 
"Your process scares me because it's not mine."

For introverts, this kills retention faster than anything else.

We need deep work. 

Focus without constant interruption and mental space to think through complex problems.

Micromanaging destroys all three, and it's why your quiet top performers leave first. 

No drama, no warnings. 
They're just gone.

In 20 years as a CHRO, I've watched this pattern play out dozens of times.

One company I worked with broke the cycle with a simple shift. 
Outcome accountability instead of process control. 

Leaders set the goal, and teams chose how to get there.

The impact was immediate. 

Turnover among introverted leaders dropped 60%. 
Same deadlines, better quality, and zero hand-holding required. 

Because when you trust people to do the work their way, they deliver.

Great leaders trust, then step back. 
Micromanaging says everything about the manager and nothing about you.

How have you handled micromanagers without burning bridges?

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Most introverts nail the interview.
Then burn out in 90 days.

After 20 years as a CHRO, I've seen it happen too many times. 

Brilliant introverts accepting roles that drain them because they didn't ask whether the company actually values different working styles.

73% of employees leave due to poor cultural fit. 
Introverts feel this more, scoring 10% lower in workplace well-being.

The interview isn't just them sizing you up. 
It's you sizing up whether this company respects how you work best.

Swipe through for the 9 questions every introvert should ask before saying yes.

Your energy isn't up for negotiation. Neither is your environment.

💾 Save this for your next interview
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Most Introverts Nail The Interview (Then Burn Out)

My first raise request took 45 minutes.
It failed.

My last one took 8 minutes.
It got me $35K more.

What changed?

I stopped trying to sound confident.
I started showing the numbers instead.

Swipe through for the exact 8-minute structure that did it →

Most introverts think a raise conversation means you need to sell yourself.
Walk in. Perform. Be louder.

That's not it.

It means building a case your manager can take upstairs and defend.

Extroverts walk in and improvise.
Introverts prepare a document and present it.

And in raise conversations, the document wins.

I've reviewed hundreds of raise requests as CHRO.
The ones that worked: short meeting, clear data, exact number.
The ones that didn't: long stories about teamwork and going the extra mile.

Your manager doesn't need a performance.
They need ammunition.

Numbers they can repeat.
Wins they can cite.
A case they can defend when you're not in the room.

Your quiet preparation isn't the problem.
It's the solution.

💾 Save this before your next raise conversation

♻️ Repost if you know an introvert who needs to hear this

The 8-Minute Strategy that got me a $35K Raise

Today I turn 52.
At 25, I hid in bathroom stalls before meetings.
Now I lead them as CHRO.

The same traits that made you second‑guess yourself at 25
are the ones that can make you impossible to replace
at 25, 52, or whatever comes next.

But only if you stop apologising for them.

I knew that in my head a long time ago.
I just didn’t have the guts to say it out loud.
That part took years.

I hope you don’t wait as long as I did.

25: The Breaking Point

I was the quiet one faking loud.

Forced networking until 2am. 
Performed enthusiasm I didn't feel. 
Dominated meetings that drained me by noon.

I sat in my car after another leadership summit thinking: 
"I'm in the wrong career."

Then a mentor said eight words that changed everything: 
"Stop playing their game. Start playing yours."

52: The Breakthrough

Today, I lead differently.

I skip 80% of networking events. 
Build five deep relationships instead of fifty shallow ones. 
Speak less but land every word.

Not despite being quiet. Because of it.

This is what I finally understood:

That overthinking? Catches problems before they explode. 
That selective socializing? Builds unbreakable loyalty. 
That need for quiet? Where real strategy happens. 
That careful processing? Why people trust my decisions.

At 25, I thought leadership meant being everywhere. 
At 52, I know it means being fully present where it matters.

I protect my mornings for deep work. 
Take walking meetings when I need to think. 
Leave events before I'm drained, not after.

The same traits that made you doubt yourself at 25 will make you irreplaceable at 52. 
But only if you stop apologizing for them.

You don't rise by volume. 
You rise by depth.

To every introvert who thinks they need to change: The world has enough performers. It needs more thinkers.

What "weakness" from your 20s became your superpower?

♻️ Share this if you're done apologizing for how you're wired. Not as an admission, as a declaration.

PS. Who dares to guess the age at this picture? :)

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