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Co-founder of Inner Circle. The dating app for people who want fewer matches and better dates.

Built on the belief opposites don’t attract, so you don't waste time.

Bootstrapped since 2012. 8M+ members worldwide.

Try the app with code MK2024 for a month of premium access.

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Looking for stars to join the team, check out the careers page: www.about.theinnercircle.co/careers. 

About me: 
I believe no strategy is better than its execution. 
My scope includes:
🏆 Hiring and developing winning teams 
✅ Alignment and execution driven by OKRs
🚀 Marketing that drives growth with ROI
🥾 Data to accelerate experiments that move the needle
🍸 Advisor and angel

In 2025, I stepped back into marketing as COO CMO. Content is the most powerful lever for any brand, so I started posting here to understand what makes it tick, share my learnings and lead my team better.

Michael Krayenhoff

The best leaders aren’t just tough.

They're compassionate.

Compassion isn't a weakness.
It's the courage to lead with humanity, especially when the stakes are highest.

It's about delivering hard feedback, but never with cruelty.
Holding firm standards, but always with dignity.
Driving real results, but never at the cost of people's worth.

I've seen leaders who mistake harshness for strength; 
They burn out their teams and themselves.

The ones who last? 
They understand that respect and accountability aren't opposites.

True leadership isn't choosing between being effective and being decent.
It's refusing to accept that false choice in the first place.

Here are 3 leadership reminders that actually hold up in real life:

1️⃣ Compassion takes backbone.
↳ Say what needs to be said, clearly and directly.
↳ Avoiding the truth feels kind in the moment, but it costs trust later.

2️⃣ Compassion needs standards.
↳ Hold the line on behavior, effort, and values.
↳ Being human does not mean lowering the bar. It means being fair about it.

3️⃣ Compassion is built in small moments.
↳ How you listen. How you respond. How you follow up.
↳ People remember consistency more than big speeches.

Strong leadership is not a choice between results and decency.
That is a false trade.

Real leaders refuse to make it.

So ask yourself this today,
How are you showing compassion when it actually counts? 
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I've worked with hundreds of leaders over the years.

The gap between good and great? It's not strategy or skill.

It's self-awareness.

The best leaders don't just drive results;
They develop people while doing it.

Here's what sets them apart:
16 Signs of a Highly Intelligent Leader

1/ They never punish honesty.
↳ People speak up when they know the truth won’t cost them their seat.

2/ They leave room at the table.
↳ Influence grows when others are invited in.

3/ They create calm in the chaos.
↳ Steady energy keeps teams focused when pressure hits.

4/ They admit when they're wrong.
↳ Owning mistakes sets the standard faster than pretending to be right.

5/ They set direction, not demands.
↳ Clear intent beats rigid instructions.

6/ They over-communicate the ‘why’.
 ↳ Clarity creates alignment faster than control ever could.

7/ They give others permission to fail.
↳ Progress only happens where mistakes are allowed.

8/ They hire people smarter than them.
↳ Strong leaders optimize for outcomes, not ego.

9/ They prioritize trust over popularity.
↳ Being respected lasts longer than being liked.

10/ They care deeply but act objectively.
↳ Empathy informs decisions without clouding them.

11/ They ask more questions than they answer.
↳ Good questions unlock better thinking across the room.

12/ They don’t claim credit for the team's work.
↳ They direct praise to the team to celebrate those who execute.

13/ They coach people, they don't control them.
↳ They don't want people just to deliver, they want them to develop.

14/ They don't build followers, they build leaders.
↳ The real test is what the team does when you’re not there.

15/ They show up with the same attitude, every day.
↳ Predictability builds trust and trust drives results.

16/ They step back so others can step into the spotlight.
↳ Progress accelerates when credit is shared.

Intelligent leadership changes teams.

It’s not about being in charge,
It’s about how you show up for the people who trust you.

Which leader does this remind you of?
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You can have high standards and treat people well.

They're not mutually exclusive.

I've interviewed over 1,000 people to build Inner Circle.

Entry level to senior leaders.

Everybody gets nervous at times.
Because, behind every resume is a real person.

They've prepared for hours.
They're thinking about their rent.
They've practiced answers in the mirror.
They're wondering if they're good enough.

About finally getting a shot.
About their family.

But most companies forget this, and: 

They ghost candidates for weeks.
They treat hiring like a transaction.
They forget there's a human waiting.

And that shows.

How you hire shows your culture more than any values slide ever will.

Not what you say.
What you do when no one is watching.

Here is what treating candidates like humans looks like in real life:

1️⃣ You respond
↳ If someone spoke with you, you close the loop.
↳ Even a short no is better than silence.

2️⃣ You are clear
↳ You explain why the answer is no.
↳ You say it in plain words, not corporate talk.

3️⃣ You respect time
↳ You only add interviews if they are truly needed.
↳ You decide who makes the final call before the process starts.

This is not going the extra mile.
It is walking the talk on your values..

People remember how you treated them.
Even when they did not get the job.

Quick question for you,
What is one thing you never compromise on when hiring?
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If you want success, you need to out-fail everyone.


Most people don’t actually fail.
They just never even start.

They over-prepare.
They wait for confidence.
They wait for permission.
They wait for certainty.

Then they call it being realistic.

Failure isn’t the opposite of success.
Inaction is.

Failure only shows up after you’ve moved.
After you shipped the idea.
Had the uncomfortable conversation.
Put your name on the line.

That’s why failure hurts.

Not because you’re weak,
but because you cared enough to commit.

Execution is the filter most people never pass.
They stay busy.
They stay smart.
They stay safe.
And mistake that for progress.

If you failed, congratulations.
You made it past the hardest step.

The real question isn’t
“Did it work?”

It’s:
Did you step into the arena or stay in the stands?

What’s one thing you’re trying this year,
even if it might fail?

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Fear of failure will keep you average.

Even if you're capable of more. 

Image credits to Alvin Huang

I’ve seen this closely. 
When I started Inner Circle, nothing was guaranteed.
There was no safety net. Just a belief that mattered more than the noise outside.

Failing was simply a part of the process at the time.

Features that didn’t work.
Markets we entered too early.
Hires that looked right on paper but wrong in real life.

Each one felt heavy at the time.
Like maybe this was the moment it all breaks.

But failure rarely shows up as a big dramatic ending.

Most of the time it looks like this,

👇 You try something.
👇 It doesn’t work the way you hoped.
👇 You sit with the discomfort.
👇 You figure out what you missed.
👇 You adjust.
👇 You try again.

That’s not failure.
That’s the job.

After building a bootstrapped company to 8M members, 
I can count the real failures on one hand.
The kind I’d never repeat.

Everything else was just a part of the process of getting better.

Early on, it’s hard to tell the difference.
Everything feels urgent. Everything feels final.

With time, you get faster at spotting what needs killing,
and what just needs another round.

So if you’re in that uncomfortable middle right now, ask yourself:

Are you failing,
or are you just not done yet?

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Changing jobs isn't the same as quitting.

Quitting used to be seen as weak.

Now it's a sign of growth.

Here are 8 reasons leaving may be the smart choice:

1/ You’ve outgrown the role
↳ You’re doing more than the job asks, but the title and scope haven’t moved.

2/ Your pay no longer matches your value
↳ Loyalty feels nice, but the market doesn’t reward it the same way.

3/ The environment drains you
↳ If work costs you your energy, health, or confidence, that’s a signal.

4/ You want better leadership
↳ A great manager can change your entire career path.

5/ You’ve stopped learning
↳ Comfort is great until it quietly stalls your growth.

6/ You want broader exposure
↳ New companies mean new ways of thinking, building, and solving problems.

7/ You need to stretch yourself
↳ Change forces adaptability. And adaptability compounds fast.

8/ There’s no real path forward
↳ Some org charts just don’t have space for what you’re ready to become.

Knowing when to leave isn’t failure.

It’s self-awareness.

Curious, when did leaving work out for you?
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Toxic leaders can destroy your self-worth.

Don't blame yourself.

Recognize their behaviours.

A toxic leader can ruin your career:

🚨 Creating fear
🚨 Killing confidence
🚨 Controlling opportunity

Here are 9 signs to watch out for:

1. The Favourite Picker
↳ Loyalty is rewarded, not performance
↳ Promotions become politics, not merit

2. The Credit Thief
↳ Takes your wins and does the bare minimum
↳ Recognition is stolen, and so is your recognition

3. The Power Tripper
↳ Uses their title to silence, not support
↳ “Because I said so” becomes their leadership style

4. The Blame Shifter
↳ They spread fear by criticising and blaming
↳ Shames mistakes instead of coaching growth

5. The Control Freak
↳ Micromanages every task but shares no vision
↳ You’re overloaded, under-trusted, and out of oxygen

6. The Burnout Machine
↳ Glorifies overwork and calls it ambition
↳ Well-being is sacrificed at the altar of “urgency”

7. The Fear Builder
↳ Uses silence to protect their authority
↳ People stop speaking up and trust disappears

8. The Mood Swinger
↳ Hot one day, cold the next
↳ You’re stuck guessing which version shows up

9. The Growth Blocker
↳ Rejects change to protect their ego
↳ They never leave their comfort zone and make sure others can't

Which have you experienced?
Let me know below 👇 

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9 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

The best performing teams aren’t the smartest. 
They’re the most curious.

Being with the team in São Paulo this week 
made that obvious again.

Teams move faster
when the energy is right.

Not because they’re smarter.
Not because they work longer.

It comes from curiosity.
From teams that challenge assumptions
Instead of defending the status quo.

5 ways curiosity drives outsized results:

1/ Better questions replace old answers
↳ Progress starts when teams stop defending and start improving.

2/ Testing beats debating
↳ Momentum builds when learning happens in the work.

3/ Less process, more momentum
↳ Clarity reduces the need for endless coordination.

4/ Ownership goes up
↳ People move faster when they help shape the thinking.

5/ Energy compounds
↳ Belief grows when teams see ideas turn into reality.

Curiosity is the unlock to real growth.

Where have you seen curiosity lift results?
Let me know in the comments ⬇️

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What separates the best founders from the rest? 

It's not their vision or the product!
It’s the decisions they repeat every day.

Most people think leadership shows up in big moments.
Fundraises. Pivots. Announcements.

That matters for sure. 
But it is not what shapes the team.

What defines you are the silent decisions no one sees or applauds.
Here are five key decisions that define you: 

1️⃣ Who you build around
→ Notice who you involve early, when the problem is still messy and the answer isn’t clear.

2️⃣ What behavior you protect
→ Pay attention to what you address immediately and what you tolerate because it’s inconvenient to confront.

3️⃣ Where your attention goes
→ Look at what consistently gets your time when priorities collide. That’s what your team learns to value.

4️⃣ What you simplify
→ Track the rules, steps, or approvals you remove so people can act without waiting on you.

5️⃣ How you show up under pressure
→ Observe how you react in the moment things break, not how you explain it later.

These are the moments where your leadership takes shape.
If your team feels cautious, slow, or dependent,
there is a good chance one of these decisions is stuck on repeat.

Which one do you think leaders struggle to change the most?
Drop it in the comments 👇

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Being yourself is the real flex.

Especially when everyone else is putting on a show.

Social media didn’t create this behaviour.
It just made it more visible.

Some people optimise perception over capability.

They become whoever the moment rewards:
- Visible when projects succeed
- Quiet when things get hard
- Quick to talk about outcomes they didn’t own
- Fast to turn team success into personal optics

You see it online.
You see it inside companies.

Perception works at a distance.
Capability shows up in delivery.

When decisions carry weight.
When results actually matter.
That’s when the image collapses.

What’s left is simple:
 1/ Who actually owns the work
 2/ Who stays consistent
 3/ Who doesn’t change depending on who’s watching

That’s why the best operators don’t play the optics game.

They don’t need to.
Their work does the talking.

Where do you see capability beat perception?

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Leadership isn’t a title. 
It’s a craft. 

Most leaders manage work they don’t understand.
That’s when performance breaks.

Every quarter we run a workshop,
where we experience a craft.
This week it was content creation.

We worked in groups of three.
Each group created two pieces of content, 
that had to perform in the real world.

We didn’t just talk theory,
Everyone got to experience;

What makes a great hook.
Where storytelling breaks.
And the practical limits of filming, format and timing.

Once you do the work together, clarity comes fast.
What sounds simple in a meeting
is rarely simple in execution.

Content is one of the biggest growth levers in modern marketing.

When leaders only touch content 
through agencies or dashboards…
They lose the feel for what great looks like.

5 Reasons the best leaders stay close to the craft:

1/ You experience execution, not coordination
 ↳ You feel the friction plans never show.

2/ You understand real constraints
 ↳ Time, format and context shape every decision.

3/ You see where clarity breaks
 ↳ Briefs collapse when they meet reality.

4/ You keep standards grounded
 ↳ Distance turns “high bar” into a slogan.

5/ You earn the right to challenge the work
 ↳ Feedback lands when you’ve done the reps.

Staying close to the craft isn’t micromanaging.
It’s how leaders raise the bar and move faster.

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⚡️ LinkedIn Top Voice ⚡️ Be happier and more fulfilled by changing how you work ⚡️ Former People Partner at KPMG

I help teams to improve their performance by changing how they work.

When teams work differently, companies get the performance they want and people get work that feels more fulfilling.

My approach combines behavioural science, leadership psychology, and real-world experience.

That real-world experience comes from over 20 years at KPMG, where I was a Partner, COO, and Head of People for a major division, alongside leading complex client work. I have seen first-hand what actually drives performance in high-pressure, high-accountability environments.

I work with organisations where:

Productivity is falling despite longer hours and bigger teams
High performers and future leaders are leaving
Engagement and discretionary effort are declining
Cognitive overload is driving poor decisions
Burnout and stress-related absence are increasing
Client experience and service quality are slipping
Innovation is squeezed out by constant busyness
Leaders are stuck firefighting instead of leading

The solution is not greater effort.
It is working differently.

Organisations including HSBC, M&G, and Royal London work with me globally on leadership and management development programmes, offsites, and all-company events, both in person and virtually.

“𝘔𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘺𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘮𝘴 𝘥𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘸𝘰 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴. 𝘏𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦-𝘣𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘰𝘳𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴.”
– 𝘋𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘥 𝘙𝘪𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘴𝘰𝘯, 𝘊𝘌𝘖, 𝘑𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘎𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘱 𝘱𝘭𝘤

If you are a senior leader exploring how to improve the performance of your team through better ways of working, feel free to message me.

Mostyn Wilson

High performers don't waste years trying to fix broken systems... they leave fast.

And it's the most strategic move they'll ever make.
 
Here's what most people get wrong:

Staying in a dysfunctional environment doesn't make you loyal or resilient.

It just makes you exhausted, invisible, and stuck.
 
If your talent is being ignored, your ideas are being shot down, or office politics rewards the wrong people…

That's not your cue to try harder.

That's your sign to find a place that values what you bring.
 
High performers know:

→ You can't outwork a toxic system.

→ You can't "prove" your way into a broken culture.

→ The cost of staying is always higher than the risk of leaving.
 
Leaving isn't quitting.

It's choosing growth over survival.

It's betting on yourself instead of waiting for a system to change.
 
So, if you feel trapped, sidelined, or unappreciated:

Trust your instincts.

And walk away when you have to.
 
It's how top talent stays top.
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We start on Monday (26th January).
This is the only live cohort running in 2026.

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High-performing teams – Smarter ways of working | ex-KPMG Partner, COO & Head of People

Why Top Talent Leaves Fast

Success has a strange side effect.

You work your way to the top…
and somehow end up feeling empty.

The meetings run smoothly.
The team performs.
The numbers hit.

From the outside, it looks perfect.
But inside?
You’re running on fumes.

You tell yourself you’re just tired.
You tell yourself things will slow down.

They never do.

You skip the gym because “tomorrow.”
You check emails on holiday.
You sit at dinner with your family, but your mind’s still at work.

Somewhere along the way, the job stopped serving your life.
And started consuming it.

Here’s what most people miss:

When your personal life runs dry, your professional life won’t be far behind.

The solution is better clarity.

Clarity about what actually fuels you.
The kind of work that gives more than it takes.
The kind of environment that respects your energy.

Because ambition without this type of clarity burns you out.
But ambition with this type of clarity builds you up.

So ask yourself:
If your work finally fit your life, what would you get back first?

Ready to get your life back?
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Success feels good, until it drains everything else

Your CV won’t get you hired in 2026.

These 7 skills will 👇

1️⃣ Self-awareness
 ↳ Know your strengths, weaknesses, and how you impact others.

Leaders who master this build trust and stronger teams.

2️⃣ Active Listening
 ↳ And more time listening than talking.

Great leaders spend 80% of their time understanding, not broadcasting.

3️⃣ Asking Powerful Questions
 ↳ Answers are easy.

But it's questions that unlock new perspectives.

4️⃣ Emotional Intelligence
 ↳ Reading the room. Managing stress. Building real connections.

You can’t fake this, people feel it instantly.

5️⃣ Recovering from Failure
 ↳ Your bounce-back rate matters more than your success rate.

Quick learners outgrow everyone else.

6️⃣ Disagreeing Professionally
 ↳ Challenge ideas without damaging relationships.

It’s rare. It’s invaluable. It gets you promoted.

7️⃣ Cultural Navigation
 ↳ Adapting to different work styles, personalities, and communication preferences.

The future of work belongs to those who can blend in anywhere.

CVs measure what you’ve done.
These skills show who you are.

And in 2026’s workplace, who you are matters more.

I’ve seen brilliant CVs fail.

I’ve seen unconventional backgrounds soar.

The difference? These seven skills.

– They build trust.
– They drive results.
– They can’t be faked on paper.
– They show up in every interaction.

💬 What skill would you add to this list?

Drop it in the comments 👇

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I used to say yes to everything because it was easier in the moment. But it was expensive later on.

I learned that I’d be much better off setting boundaries than feeling
resentful that I’d agreed to do something I didn’t have time to do.
 
Here are the top scripts I still use.
Steal them.
Tweak them.
Use them today.
 
A meeting I do not need:

“Thank you for thinking of me. I am heads down on a few other priorities right now and so I won’t be able to attend this. If you send a short note with the goal and one question you need answered, I will reply by Friday.”
 
Pick my brain:

“I appreciate the invite but I’m currently limiting such things so I can focus on something I need to get built over the next couple of months. If you’ve got a specific question, reply here and I will share a quick answer when I can.”
 
Quick favour that is not quick:

“Thanks for asking. I don’t have the capacity to do this well right now, so I am going to pass. Here are two resources that should be able to help you.”
 
Project that I don’t want to be involved with:

“This does look interesting and thanks for thinking of me. However, it doesn’t align with my current focus, so I will decline for now. If that changes, I will reach out.”
 
Time ask during focus hours:

“I’ll be offline for deep work until 2 pm. If it can wait, I can come back to you after that. If it is time sensitive, please proceed without me.”
 
Intro request I cannot make:

“I avoid surprising people with intros. If you send a three sentence blurb I can forward, I am happy to send it on to them and they can reach out if they’re interested.”
 
Scope creep:

“I really like the sound of these additions, however, what you are asking for is outside the scope of our original agreement. Would you like me to price it up as an additional piece of work?”
 
Job offer or opportunity that is not a fit:

“I am grateful for the offer. I am optimising for a different direction right now, so I am going to decline. I wish you the best finding the right person.”
 
Friend or family invitation I cannot accept:

“Thank you for thinking of me. I can’t make it this time but I am sure you’ll all have a great time, and I’ll look forward to hearing all about it!”
 
There are a few principles that make saying no easier:
 
Say no quickly.
Because silence creates false hope.
 
Be brief.
Because explanations invite debate.
 
Offer an option that works for you.
A later date. A different scope. An async option.
 
“No” protects your energy.
Yes should earn its place.
 
Save these scripts for next time you need them.

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How to Say no without guilt

Most career decisions aren’t made strategically.

They’re made emotionally.

A layoff.
A shiny title.
A spike of fear dressed up as “opportunity”.

So people chase movement, but not always the right direction.

The result is the same doubts, just at a higher pay band.

A few years ago, I realised I needed a better way to decide.
Not more thinking.
Better filters.

So I built a simple framework I now use for every big decision.

I call it The Decision Grid.

It asks just two questions:

1. Does this increase my freedom or reduce it?
2. Does this expand my impact or shrink it?

If it doesn’t do both, it’s a no.

Not a “maybe”.
Not a “for now”.
A no.

Because every meaningful career is built on the same trade-offs:

Freedom over fear.
Impact over image.
Long-term leverage over short-term relief.

That’s how people stop being busy and start being significant.

You don’t need more clarity.
You need a framework that removes bad options fast.

Use this grid the next time you’re at a crossroads.

If it grows your freedom and your impact, it’s a smart move.
Everything else is noise.

If you want to build a brilliant next phase of your career, that’s exactly what we do inside Atomic Ambition.

We start on Monday (26th January).
This is the only live cohort running in 2026.

If you've been on the fence, now is your time.

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A simple test for better career decisions

There’s something I’ve seen again and again with senior professionals, especially those who’ve outperformed quietly for years.

They become the foundation.

The person others lean on.

The one who makes it all work behind the scenes.

And for a while, that feels like recognition.

But eventually, the appreciation starts to sound the same.

– “Thanks for holding the fort”

– “You’re so dependable”

– “We can always count on you”

There’s nothing wrong with being the safe pair of hands.

But it becomes a problem when that’s all they see.

And if your value has become expected, you’ll wait forever for promotion.

I don’t think most people get stuck because they stop performing.

I think they get stuck because their environment stops imagining them any differently.

And unless you actively reframe how you’re seen, you’ll be respected, thanked… and left right where you are.

That’s not a reflection of your ability.

It’s a reflection of the system you’re operating in.

If that’s resonating – you’re not alone.

I speak with people every week who feel this exact thing.

But there is a way through it.

And it doesn’t start with working harder.

It starts with showing your value more clearly.

And if they don't see it, it's time to move on.

Has anything helped you realise it’s time to rethink the game you’re playing?

Drop it below 👇
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We start on 26th January.

Outperformed for Years. But Still Stuck?

"Just work harder" is the most damaging lie told to good people in broken workplaces.
 
And the best workers always hear it most.
 
When companies are a complete mess, have no money, or rubbish bosses, they praise staying late over actually getting things done.
 
So the message becomes:

Try harder.
Stay later.
Push through.
 
But here's what nobody dares say out loud:
 
Working harder in a broken system doesn't fix the system.

It just destroys the people trapped inside it.
 
Top performers react to broken systems by:

- Doing way more than their fair share

- Fixing stuff that isn't their job

- Bottling up all the pressure

- Confusing being a hero with making a real difference
 
They don't whinge.

They just cover for everyone else.
 
And that's exactly why this lie keeps working.
 
"Just work harder" sounds noble.
It sounds fair.
It sounds like you've got control.
 
But it sneakily shifts all the blame away from useless management, terrible planning, and backwards priorities - straight onto the person already giving everything.
 
The real move isn't working more.
 
It's asking the brutal questions:

- What's properly broken here?

- What am I propping up that deserves to collapse?

- Where am I losing my energy?

- What would actual progress look like, not just barely surviving?
 
Being brilliant at your job isn't about grinding yourself to bits.
 
It's about choosing where your effort actually makes a difference.
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If you want some help deciding on your next move, that’s exactly what we do inside Atomic Ambition.

We start tomorrow (26th January).
This is the only live cohort running in 2026.

Click here to grab one of the last spots👇

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Just work harder is toxic advice in broken companies

A small shift in how you think can change everything about how you live.

The biggest barrier between you and your goals isn’t talent or resources.

It’s the way you talk to yourself, especially when things feel hard.

We all slip into the same thoughts:

“My timing isn’t right”
“I don’t know enough to start”
“What if I mess this up?”

If you’re not careful, those thoughts quietly shape your entire life.

But the good news?

Your mindset is the easiest place to create real change.

Shift it even slightly, and the path forward starts to open up.

Here are 5 perspective shifts that have made everything feel more possible for me:

1. “I’m not ready for this” → “I can learn as I go”

Taking the first step teaches you more than waiting ever will.

2. “I need everything planned perfectly" → “Progress starts small”

A rough version in motion beats a flawless plan sitting still.

3. “I don’t have enough time” → “I choose what gets my time”

Your schedule becomes clearer the moment your priorities do.

4. “This problem is too big” → “I can break it down into steps”

Most obstacles shrink the moment you move toward them.

5. “Growth feels overwhelming” → “Growth means I’m stretching”

Feeling uncomfortable is often a sign you’re on the right path.

Your outlook shapes your outcomes.

Choose the perspective that moves you forward.

Which shift hits home for you today?

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Small shifts in how you think can change your life

You didn’t come this far, just to feel ‘fine’.

You worked too hard.
Learned too much.
Survived too many storms.

To spend your best years protecting your comfort zone.

Playing it safe looks smart...
until it starts stealing your potential.

You tell yourself it’s stability.

But deep down, you know it’s fear in disguise.

The fear of being seen.

The fear of failing publicly.

The fear of finding out that yes, you are actually meant for more.

Most people don’t fail because they make bad moves.

They fail because they never make the moves that matter.

Every dream you have lives on the other side of discomfort.

And most people never cross that line.

They choose comfort over courage.

Certainty over curiosity.

‘Someday’ over ‘right now’.

But “someday” is a mirage.

It never arrives.

The truth is that you don’t need to burn your life down.

You just need to stop building walls around your potential.

Because safety won’t build your legacy, but it will limit you.

The moment you stop clinging to “secure”, you start unlocking everything you’ve been chasing.

Impact.
Freedom.
Higher pay.

The life you want won’t come from caution.
It will come from conviction.

So, make the move that scares you.

If you want some help building a brilliant next phase of your career, that’s exactly what we do inside Atomic Ambition.

We start on Monday (26th January).
This is the only live cohort running in 2026.

If you've been on the fence, now is your time.

Click here to grab one of the last spots👇

https://lnkd.in/e739yevD

Playing it safe?

The biggest threat to senior careers isn’t burnout.

It's not even a toxic boss... 

It’s career paralysis.

You didn’t get to a senior level by winging it.
You know how to play the game – and win.

But when it comes to your next move...
Something strange happens.

You stall.
You second-guess.
You wait longer than you should.

Because here’s the truth no one talks about:

👉 The higher you go, the harder it is to move.

Not because you’ve lost your ambition.
But because the cost of a wrong move is huge.

You’ve worked way too hard to gamble it away on something you’re not 100% sure about.

So instead of acting, you wait.

You wait for more clarity.
More signs.
More certainty.

But the longer you wait, the more difficult it all feels.

And quietly, your energy drops.
Your mornings feel heavier.
Your confidence starts to wobble.

I speak with senior people all the time who say:

“I know I can’t stay like this… but I don’t know what I want instead.”

Here’s what they eventually realise:

The clarity they’re seeking.
It doesn’t arrive.
It’s built.

And when you start building it, that’s the moment real change begins.

💬 How long is too long to feel uncertain about your next step?

📌 In Atomic Ambition from Mostyn Wilson, I help experienced leaders and professionals to design a richer, freer, more authentic second half of their career.

Take a look here: https://lnkd.in/e739yevD

Your happiness and fulfilment start at the end of January.

Building Atomic Ambition into the world’s best program to get happy and fulfilled in the second half of your career | ex-KPMG Partner, COO & Head of People

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