I used to think networking was just for extroverts, salespeople, or people trying to land their next job. Then I learned that real networking—the kind that builds trust, opens doors, and helps people stay and grow in their careers—is just consistent, human connection.

That realization shaped everything I do now.

Today, I split my time between two worlds:

At Retention and Rewards Partners, I work with HR leaders to solve complex problems around compensation, benefits, and employee retention. I’ve led total rewards teams through M&A deals, culture transformations, open enrollments, and board-level pay strategy. But underneath all the spreadsheets and systems is one simple goal: build workplaces where people want to stay.

And as the founder of The Introverted Networker, I teach professionals how to build strong relationships—without small talk, events, or pretending to be someone they’re not. I write a weekly newsletter, lead corporate workshops, and coach people on how to connect with others in a way that feels real and doable.

My work might look different depending on the day, but it’s all connected by one belief: when people feel seen, supported, and fairly treated, they stay. And when they build trusted relationships at work, they thrive.

If you care about building workplaces where people stay and succeed—or you’re trying to grow your network in a way that actually feels good—I’d love to connect.


Here are other ways I can help you:

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The best way to contact me is via email: greg@gregsroche.com

Greg Roche

They don’t comment.
They don’t connect.
Then the layoff hits.

They only log into LinkedIn when it's too late.

A lot of people need to read this.

But they won't.

They aren't on LinkedIn today, 

So they won't see this post.

I search LinkedIn for people who do the same job in my area.

I try to connect so we can build a professional relationship.

I click on their profiles.

They have fewer than 500 connections.

They haven't commented or anything for years.

They've been at the same company for 8, 10, 20 years.

You know what this tells me?

They aren't networking.

They're telling themselves:

"𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗷𝗼𝗯."
"𝗜'𝗺 𝗮 𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗿."
"𝗜 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗮𝗯𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗻𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲?"

They never log into LinkedIn, until:

👎The company is acquired and their role is eliminated, or
👎Their boss retires and their new boss doesn't click, or
👎A global pandemic ruins the entire industry.

Then, they:

🚫Apply for jobs online.
🚫Re-write their resume.
🚫Practice answering interview questions.

It doesn't get them a job.

They've heard they need to grow their network, but they forgot:

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗻𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸.

If you know someone who doesn't engage on LinkedIn at least once a week, tell them:

✔️They need to grow their professional network.
✔️They need to connect with people on LI.
✔️They need to do it before they need it.

Today is the right time.
Tomorrow is too late.


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I teach professionals to connect and build trust. Founder Retention and Rewards Partners. Solving retention and total rewards challenges for HR leaders who need results, not more noise. Aka: The Introverted Networker.

There’s a reason networking gets a bad reputation.
These 5 types of people explain it.

The truth is, not everyone who networks does it well.

Some people give networking a bad name.

They turn what should be about relationships into a transaction.

Here are five types I see most often:

𝟭. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗢𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘀𝘁 Shows up only when they need something, like a job, referral, or favor. Then disappears.

𝟮. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗧𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗻 Keeps score. “If I give you something, I expect something back.” Networking isn’t math. It’s trust.

𝟯. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗲𝗿 Uses every conversation as a stage to talk about themselves. People leave feeling unseen and unheard.

𝟰. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗚𝗵𝗼𝘀𝘁 Starts strong. Sends a message. Has coffee once. Then disappears. Connection isn’t built in one interaction.

𝟱. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿 Measures success by how many contacts they have instead of how many they know. A full contact list isn’t the same as a real network.

If networking feels awkward or fake, it’s probably because you’ve run into one of these.

Real networking isn’t about collecting, pitching, or asking.

It’s about consistency, curiosity, and giving before you get.

P.S. - Thanks to Craig Davis, The King of LinkedIn Comments. His comment on yesterday's post inspired this one. Not following him? You should be!


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Your network gets you hired.
Not your resume.

What everyone thinks it takes to get a job:
• Snappy elevator pitch
• Professionally written resume
• Attention-grabbing cover letter
• Impressive follow-up thank you letter
• Unique answers to all the interview questions

What most people are missing:
• A vibrant, professional network, that's
• Committed to introducing one another to
• Opportunities and connections that are mutually beneficial

If you're focused on the first set of bullet points without the second,

You're not going to get the results you want.

Spend 80% of your job search on the second set and 20% on the first.

Not sure how?

1. Send your former co-workers an email or a LI message saying, "I thought of you today and realized we haven't spoken in a while. How have you been?"

2. As your get responses, turn these online interactions into real world conversations.

3. Ask people about themselves and listen for opportunities to help.

4. Figure out what you can give. Give advice, recommendations, or introductions.

5. Create a target list of companies or people to whom you want to be introduced.

6. Give this list to your connections to make it easy for them to help you meet someone new.

7. When your connection introduces you to someone new, go back to step 2 and repeat.

This is The Connection Loop.
This is how you network.

It takes time.
Start today.


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From fired to founder: how one layoff taught me the most important lesson of my career.

In the fall of 2012, my boss walked into my office and said: 
“I’m eliminating your position.”

I didn’t know it in the moment,
But, my life would never be the same.

In the following weeks, a lot happened.
I prepared to leave the company where I worked for the past nine years.

I also realized I had no network to help me find a job.

In the process of finding my next job, 

I learned how to network.

And after I started my next job, I kept networking.

Over the next 13 years, I grew my network with small, daily and weekly actions.

• I started teaching other people how to do it
• I started a newsletter about it
• I wrote a book about it

When I started my own company, Retention and Rewards Partners, I tapped into my network to find clients.

Everything I have in my career today is a result of my network.
It is the most valuable asset I have.

But, if my boss hadn’t fired me that day, 
I never would've learned this lesson, 

And I wouldn't have been able to share it with you.

P.S. - If you have been recently laid off, I know it's a struggle. It's happened to me twice.

But, you're likely to end up in a better situation than the one you left.

My DMs are open if you need help or advice.

You’re networking like everyone else.
Which is why it’s not working.

Most people think there's one way to network.

But after teaching thousands of people how to build real connections,

I’ve learned there are different 𝘵𝘺𝘱𝘦𝘴 of networkers.

And each one struggles for a different reason.

Here are five I see most often:

𝟭. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗿 They’ve been laid off or fear it’s coming. They know relationships matter but don’t know where to start again.

𝟮. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿 They do great work, but no one outside their immediate team knows it. Their network has stalled inside their own company.

𝟯. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿-𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿 They manage others but want to create stronger connection and trust across teams. They care about culture but feel alone driving it.

𝟰. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁 They’re highly skilled, think physicians, lawyers, engineers, but their work leaves little time for peer connection. It’s lonely at the top.

𝟱. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝗺𝗲𝗿𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 They’re early in their career and eager to learn, but unsure how to reach out or what to say.

Each one needs a different approach to networking.

Knowing which one you are will help you focus your efforts to get the networking results you're looking for.

In my latest issue of 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘐𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘦𝘳, I explain these types in detail.

And help you figure out which one you are.

Which kind of networker are you?


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If you think it’s too late to start networking, read this.

I get message from people all the time that say:
 "I should have started networking sooner," 

If that's you, here's my response:

There's no shame in it.

I was right there with you 13 years ago when I lost my job.

• I never reached out to people.
• I didn't stay in touch with former co-workers.
• I wasn't offering little bits of value to my network.

The same place you are right now.

And, I learned how to grow my network one small step at a time.

It wasn't easy.

At the time, I thought I'd never find my next job.

But, I kept at it.
Kept talking to people.

Finally, It paid off.

When I landed my next job, I promised myself I'd never be "under-networked" again.

I kept networking even though I didn't need a job.
It was the easiest networking I've ever done.

Now, I teach people how to network because I know how it feels to have no idea where to start.

Each time I hear from someone who says,

"I know I should have been networking. Now, I'm behind and trying to catch up,"

I see myself all those years ago.

But, I don't judge them.

I don't think,

"I've been here on LinkedIn every day for the past 4+ years talking about networking before you need it.

Where have you been?"

Ok, maybe that's the first thought I have, but it's quickly replaced with...

"Let me show you what I've learned."

So, if you're in the middle of a job search,
All I've got to say is:

"It's ok. We've all been there.
Don't lose hope. It'll get better."


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8 years ago, on my birthday, I got a package at work:
A separation package.

I didn't get let go on my birthday.

It happened a couple of weeks earlier.

But my birthday was my last day.

The departure was amicable.
I went to work every day.

I believe, if you can, show up until the last day.
The memory people keep of you is the last one.

If you go out with your head high, in a respectful way, that's what they'll remember.

Don't ghost your co-workers.
Don't talk bad about your leaders.
Don't re-create the quitting scene from Jerry Maguire.

Even if that's what you want to do.

Three weeks after my birthday, I got another present.
I started my next role working in a larger company with more opportunity.

I activated my network when I found out I was being let go,
And quickly landed another job.

The role lead to bigger and bigger roles,
With more responsibility and money.

It allowed me to grow my credibility and savings.
It also allowed me to grow my Introverted Networker brand on LI and my newsletter.

7 years later, I launched my own company.

Who knows what would've happened if I hadn't turned in my badge and laptop on my birthday in 2017.

But my point is this:

If you're facing a job loss,
Today's end, is tomorrow's beginning.

Tomorrow, the story starts a new chapter.
It's a blank page.

You get to write whatever you want on it.

I learned this lesson when I turned 43.

And it's the best birthday gift I ever received.



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A lot of people don't believe it
But, this is the best time of the year to network. 

This is the season of gratitude and generosity.

In the U.S., Thanksgiving lands at the end of November. 
All month, we're pausing to reflect on everything we have.

We roll into December and give to others in the spirit of the religious holidays in the month.

Two mindsets:

• Gratitude
• Generosity

These are the most important mindsets in networking.

Gratitude grounds us appreciating what we have,
Which leads us to being generous with it and giving it to others.

Without these, you're networking with a scarcity mindset.

You're focused on what you need in the moment.
Not what you can give to others.

Your networking will be transactional and superficial.

When you're focused on gratitude and generosity,
You'll be thinking of others.

When we help others, we grow deeper relationships.

The power of reciprocity kicks in and what we put in the world comes back to us, often in multiples.

This time of year, more people are in the gratitude and generosity mindset.

More people are thinking in terms of abundance.

So, don't pack it in and stop connecting between now and the end of the year.

It's the most wonderful time of the year!

What are you doing today to reach out with gratitude and generosity?

This 1-page list got me more job leads than any resume ever did.

Most people sabotage their own networking without realizing it.

They show up to meetings with good intentions.
They share their story.
They bring energy.

And then they ruin the whole thing by doing one thing:
They hand over their resume.

I used to do it, too.

Years ago, after getting laid off, I was meeting anyone who would talk to me.

I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and hoping someone, anyone, would open a door.

One day, a former colleague stopped me mid-conversation and said:

“Stop giving people your resume. Give them direction.”

That’s when I learned about something that changed everything for me:

The Target Company List.

It’s simple:
A Target Company List is a short, clear list of companies you’d love to learn more about or possibly work for.

It’s not fancy.
It’s not laminated.
But it 𝘪𝘴 specific.

And specific is what helps people help you.

Here’s why it works:

When someone asks “How can I help?”, your resume makes their brains freeze.

They don’t know what you actually want.
They don’t know who to send it to.
So nothing happens.

But if you hand them your Target Company List and ask:
“Do you know anyone at any of these companies?”

Now the answer is easy.
Yes or no.

If it’s yes, you get a warm introduction.
If it’s no, you can ask if they know anyone at 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘳 companies.

Either way, the conversation moves forward.

The Target Company List forces you to be clear.

Clear about how someone can help you.
Clear about where you’re aiming.
Clear about what you want.

And clarity is what turns a casual chat into real momentum.

If you’re networking right now, especially after a layoff, build your list.

Bring it to your next conversation.

You’ll be surprised how many doors open when you stop handing people your resume and start giving them a map.



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If starting conversations feels like the hardest part of networking, you’re not alone.

In yesterday's poll, it was the #1 networking challenge people face.

Here’s the good news:
You don’t have to start with strangers.

You can start with people who already know you.

The goal isn’t to send a perfect message.

The goal is to restart the relationship and eventually talk like real humans again.

Start simple:
“Hey, it’s been a while. How are things going?”

That’s it.

No ask.
No pitch.
No favor.
No résumé.
No “can we chat about opportunities?”

A few reminders if this still feels awkward:
• You’re not cold-messaging.
• These people already know your name.
• You don’t need a “reason.”
• A delayed reply isn’t rejection. People are busy

When they respond, try to move from online message → real conversation

Focus the conversation on them.

Be curious, not impressive.

Because networking grows most when you go from messages to conversations

If Starting Conversations is your sticking point, you’re not broken.

You’re just one message away from momentum.

Try it this week:

Pick one person from your past and send that simple line.

Then let me know how it goes.


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There are 3 types of people you need in your network:
+, -, and =

"+" People who are ahead of you. They have knowledge and experience you can tap into.

"-"  People who are behind you. They can benefit from your knowledge and experience.

"=" People who are even with you. They share the same challenges and successes.


It's easy to focus on the people ahead of you in your networking efforts.

Don't forget to connect with people who are even with or behind you.

Everyone can be a networking connection, if you're having great networking conversations.

And, you never know who you might help,

Or who might help you.

P.S. - If you are looking for help having great networking conversations, this week's newsletter issue is for you: https://lnkd.in/evrUMZxZ



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Why Starting Networking Conversations Feels Hard (and How to Fix It)

There are 5 types of networkers,
And you’ll probably be all of them.

The type of networker you are today won’t always be who you are tomorrow.

When you start your career, networking might mean finding mentors or your first big opportunity.

Later, it might mean becoming more visible inside your company.

And eventually, it becomes about building trust, helping others, or creating a more connected culture.

Your approach has to evolve with your career.

I’ve learned there are five main 𝘵𝘺𝘱𝘦𝘴 of networkers, and most of us move through several of them over the course of our careers:

1. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗿 – getting back on your feet after a layoff or career change.
   
2. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿 – doing great work, but not enough people know it.
   
3. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿-𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿 – focused on helping your team or organization build trust.
   
4. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁 – highly skilled, but missing true peer connection.
   
5. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝗺𝗲𝗿𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 – just getting started and figuring out where to begin.

You’ll recognize yourself in one of these right now, but that’s only your 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘵.

No matter which one you are today or tomorrow,

You need an approach to networking that will support each stage of your career.

That's why I teach The Connection Loop to everyone no matter where they are in life.

Last week I taught it to a group of business owners to help them drive referrals.

Today, I'm teaching it to a group of job seekers looking for that next role.

It works for any type of networker.

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Think the holidays are a bad time to network?
Watch this classic holiday movie.

If you’ve ever watched “It’s a Wonderful Life,” you already know why this time of year is actually the 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 time to reconnect with people.
 
George Bailey isn’t a great networker because he’s charismatic.

He’s a great networker because he gives.
 
He shows up when others need him.
He helps the people around him.
He supports his community.
 
And when his life falls apart, those same people flood into his home to give back to him.
 
That’s how networking works.
 
You don’t need to chase strangers or make perfect small talk.

You start with the people already in your world.
You give something small and meaningful.
You make their lives a little easier.
 
Advice. Introductions. Recommendations.

Or, more simply: Encouragement.
 
When you give without expecting anything in return, people want to reciprocate.

Not instantly.
Not perfectly.
But eventually.

Often when it matters most.
 
This is why the holidays are an ideal time to reconnect.
 
People feel grateful.
They’re more reflective.
They’re more generous.
 
Reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while.
Tell them they came to mind.
Ask how their year has been.
 
You’re not “networking.”
You’re doing what George Bailey did.
You’re investing in the people around you.
 
If you give consistently, your community becomes your safety net.

And, this time of the year, is the best time to do it.

 
P.S. I'm writing about how to network during the holidays in this week's newsletter.

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Most people don’t hate networking.
They hate how they 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 it will feel.

They struggle because starting a conversation feels awkward.
 
Here’s a mindset shift that makes it much easier:
 
Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
 
If a former coworker messaged you today and said,

“Hey, it’s been a while. How have you been?”

You wouldn’t roll your eyes.
You’d probably feel good that they thought of you.
 
If someone at work said,
“How’s your week going?

You wouldn’t panic.
You’d answer the question.
 
And if someone asked for a small, specific favor,
You’d try to help if you could.
 
When you look at it from the other perspective,
The fear starts to fade.

You stop worrying about being judged.
You realize you’re not bothering anyone.
You’re doing something thoughtful.
 
A few simple ways to start the conversation:
 
• Online: “You came to mind this week and I wanted to see how you’re doing.”
  
• In person: “What are you looking forward to this month?”
  
• Follow-up: “I'd love to learn more about that. Want to jump on a quick call sometime next week?”
 
You don’t need perfect lines.
You just need to see the interaction through their eyes.
 
This week, try one small thing:

Message one person you haven’t talked to in a while.
Start one short conversation with someone at work.
 
If the roles were reversed, you’d appreciate it.
 
That’s why it works.

This weeks' newsletter gives you more scripts for having networking conversations. It drops tomorrow morning for my subscribers: https://lnkd.in/ece-r3kB

If networking feels awkward or exhausting, this might be why…

Have you ever felt like you should be better at networking by now?

You’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

Networking isn’t about being outgoing, confident, or perfectly polished.

It’s built on five small habits, and most of us are only doing one or two consistently.

Here's the list of the five habits:

1. Identify Who You Know: knowing which people you want to connect with
   
2. Start Conversations: reaching out in a friendly, low-pressure way
   
3. Provide Value: offering something thoughtful or helpful
   
4. Be Easy To Help: clearly sharing what you’re exploring or who you want to meet
   
5. Make It A Habit: doing it consistently, not just when you need something

This week in my newsletter, I'm sharing a 5-question self-assessment to help you see where your networking habit breaks down, and what to do about it. 

Not a subscriber? You can join here for FREE: https://lnkd.in/ece-r3kB

Now I’m curious…which stage is hardest for you right now? Tell me in the poll.

P.S. - If your answer would have been “𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗜𝘁 𝗔 𝗛𝗮𝗯𝗶𝘁,” comment below and just type 𝗛𝗮𝗯𝗶𝘁, and I'll count it in the results.

Which networking habit is hardest for you right now?

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Bernadette Pawlik, Job Search Strategist/Recruiting Insider

CoffeeandConsult

The goal of Coffee and Consult is simple:

To give you what you need to move forward, be it an effective resume, a Linkedin profile, networking strategy, interview practice or simply a sounding board.

I know how recruiters and hiring managers make their decisions because I've been "behind the curtain" of over 200 executive hiring decisions for over 20-plus years.  First, as a senior consultant with Korn/Ferry International, the world's largest retained executive search firm, and then with my own boutique retained executive search firm:  www.pawlikdorman.com

My services are individualized and intense.  I work with no more than three clients at any given time.  The objective is not only to provide what a client needs immediately but to teach clients how recruiters and hiring managers think---when they read a resume, a Linkedin profile, evaluate a candidate during the interview process. As a consequence, my clients have a toolkit they can use for the rest of their careers.

Career & Job Search Strategist

Pawlik/Dorman Custom Search

I began my retained executive search career with the world's largest global retained executive search firm, Korn/Ferry International.  During my years as a senior consultant, I had the opportunity to conduct searches for the world's biggest brands as well as privately held companies.

My goal in founding my own firm was to provide high touch, in-depth retained search to a strategically selected group of clients. To develop in-depth long-term relationships, so that my knowledge of the culture would equal my knowledge of specific roles.  I am proud to say that 80% of my firm's business came from repeat clients.  The remainder came from candidates who appreciated that my commitment to quality was not only to my clients but to the candidate's experience.

I continue that mission of high-touch, in-depth individualized services in my career strategy practice.

Senior Partner

Coffee and Consult aims to empower professionals to navigate the complexities of hiring through tailored job search strategies and career coaching. With over 25 years of expertise in executive recruitment, including time as a senior consultant at Korn/Ferry International and as founder of a boutique search firm, the consulting approach is rooted in proven hiring methodologies and insider knowledge of hiring practices.  

By offering personalized services in career clarity, resume revision, LinkedIn profile enhancement, and networking strategies, CoffeeandConsult supports clients in reaching their career goals. The commitment to transparency and high-touch collaboration ensures clients receive individualized guidance to advance their professional journey confidently.

Pawlik/Dorman conducts retained senior executive searches for a strategically limited number of clients.  Our mission is client relationships that are long-lasting, not merely transactional.  Our goal is to understand not only our client's talent needs, but their culture, strategy and vision. 

We focus on an initial client needs assessment which requires input in writing from each member of the hiring team to conduct not only a comprehensive search but to expedite the process. 

Our goal is candidates who not only "fit", but who thrive. 80% of our business is from repeat clients or referrals. Those referrals come from both clients, and candidates who were not hired, because we believe how we represent our clients build or detract from their brand as well as our reputation--so each candidate is treated with respect.
  
We welcome your questions at pawlik@pawlikdorman.com or 773 296 0950.  In addition, we are always delighted to brainstorm on search issues, career guidance or resume effectiveness.  To do so, please send an e-mail to pawlik@pawlikdorman.com referencing Linkedin.

If you're hesitant to post on LinkedIn, then this post is for you.

Consider this:

Your life matters.

Your thoughts about your life matter.

And, LinkedIn is an opportunity to share that life and those experiences.

The caveat is this:

Please share this with the intention of helping others, not to build a following or become an influencer.

LinkedIn wants each of us to "donate" free content to keep eyes on LinkedIn and to add more profiles.  It is a business model.

But, for each of us as a human being connected with other human beings, there should be no goal on LinkedIn other than this:

To answer these questions:

What have I learned that might make others' paths easier?

What do I wish someone had told me about this challenge or that one?

That's where real community comes in.

And, whether you have 10 followers or 10,000 or 100,000...when you share to help others, you contribute to humanity...

Not to the "human race" which is all about getting and accumulating, but showing up and showing others this:

You are not alone.

#Hiringinsider, #jobsearch, #careers, #executivesearch, #jobs

Bernadette Pawlik

Job Search/Career Coaching/Career Strategist/ real expertise based on 20 plus years of hiring experience/Recruiting Mythbuster

If you're a new jobseeker you are not any of the following:

Doing it all wrong.

Making big mistakes.

Screwing up your resume, Linkedin profile or your career.

You're not.

But, if you are reading this what you are doing wrong is this:

Listening to people who are only too happy to pile yet MORE anxiety on top of your skyhigh pile.

People who tell you you are "doing it all wrong", have one goal:

To hijack your brain, tap into your fear, and separate you from your money.

People I regard highly don't do that.

These people are:

Amy Miller
Kristen Fife
Jan Tegze
Kristof Schoenaerts
Alison Passino
Sam Struan

From these you can learn how recruiting works, get a free resume template, dip into a wealth of accurate information on how recruiting works, learn how executive recruiters find candidates.  

I have over 25 years of recruiting experience, and have yet to have an unexpressed thought, so consider adding me to your list.

Finally, I do a Daily Karma Hour during which time I answer quick, specific questions regarding job search and/or careers. Just send it to me via Linked DM. 

If you would like to comment that would keep this post alive so others can learn about this real stuff from #RealRecruiters.

#jobloss, #careers, #executivesearch, #RealRecruiters

Job Search/Career Coaching/Career Strategist/ real expertise based on 20 plus years of recruiting experience/Recruiting Mythbuster

Unemployment is lonely as hell.

Even if you have significant severance or you don't need to worry about putting food on the table.

I know.

I remember how desperate I was to talk to someone---so much so that I got to know the UPS drivers, the garbage/recycling people, and every person at the various points of my day---drycleaner, grocery clerk, barista--who formerly had been invisible in my fully employed life.

For many people I know, admitting that loneliness is a source of shame.

It shouldn't be.

Work gives us community---even if that community is irritating or loathesome.

So here's what I found worked for me:

Find something to which you can commit where people notice if you don't show up.

At various points in my "unemployment career" (this includes when my search practice had no business) they were:

. Volunteering at a no-kill cat shelter.  For whatever reason, talking to animals is seen as endearing, and not weird...so many a cat listened to my complaints about my old employers!

.  Volunteering for a role in a membership organization that no one wants. For me it was new member greeter it was a role that gave me constant engagement with others, and a way to expand my network.

.  Creating something about what keeps you up at night. For me it is literacy inequity around which I founded an organization which got 75k children's books to 60 plus Chicago schools that didn't have libraries.  

Don't be ashamed to admit to yourself:

This isolation is harming my mental health.

Despite the fact that our lives are dominated by machines...

we are not machines.

Comments are always appreciated.

#HiringInsider, #jobsearch, #careers, #executivesearch, #jobs

Just for today...

let's ignite a revolution on Linkedin...

Here goes:

Don't be outraged about anything.

Don't feel a need to counter someone else's opinion with your own.

Scoff at someone's ignorance.

Look for the typo.

Laugh at the awkward syntax.

Just for today when you engage on LInkedin say:

That's an interesting point of view and I'll have to think about that.

I appreciate your commenting.  It was kind of you to take the time.

I wish you well.  These are tough times, and I admire how you are handling them.

Let's declare this:

Just for today, I lay down my sword, zip my lips, and remember:

Behind whatever foolishness I read, is a person struggling--and whatever separates us from one another---the struggle unites us.

Finally, today is Open Connection Sunday. Send me a connection request and I'll acccept. No sales pitches please. 

#Hiringinsider, #jobsearch, #careers, #executives, #jobs

Here's a big mistake I made in my career---

and whether you're a new professional or a CEO--

I caution you against making this in your career.

I thought doing the best work and delivering the most value made me secure.

It didn't.

What I ignored was this:

If people don't feel you care about them, they won't care about you.

I never took the time to develop relationships with my peers or those senior to me.

No one was "vested" in me--and perhaps one indication of this was that my office nickname was HP...for High Producer.  

Not Bernie, as it had been in school or Flash as it had been in college --because I was always speeding as fast as I could...but HP, like a robot.

So when heads had to roll, my lauded high production didn't spare me... though I did subsequently learn that it took two people to replace me.

So don't be like me.

You needn't be the office party animal, or learn how to play golf or pickleball if that is your culture's thing...but start by acknowledging and appreciating others.

See others, and let them know you see them.

And, they in turn will see you.

Comments are always much appreciated.

#RecruitingInsider, #jobsearch, #careers, #executivesearch, #jobs

Applications are AWFUL.

I mean, how close to a hellish experience can you get sitting at a desk?

Here are six dead-easy steps to make the application process easier.

1) Have a "clean" resume.  If you're looking for a good template, Sam Struan has a free one.  Sam is an experienced recruiter who now conducts resume reviews and writing services. As a highly experienced recruiter, I wholeheartedly endorse him.

2) Expect that you will have to attach this resume to almost all applications. When you read that the ATS will fail to parse resumes, resulting in rejection, that doesn't apply to clean resumes like Sam's. That most applies to those fancy ass, make me want to stab myself through my cerebral cortex resume templates you see on Canva, or alas, those "award-winning" resumes you see with the weird colors, infographics, etc.

3) Now that you have your resume, get together the following: 1) Addresses of each employer, name of supervisor, phone number/e-mail. 2) Names of your references, place of employment, address, contact info (phone, e-mail)

4)  A cover letter template.  Now you all hate cover letters.  I get it. However, here's what I suggest: If you don't know why you're investing time in applying for this job —other than you want a job —you shouldn't invest 20 to 40 minutes filling out that application. 

Spend 3 minutes on your favorite AI, and ask about the company you are applying to. Ask:  What makes this company a unique brand? That should be enough to give you 3 to 4 lines as a first paragraph.  You need two more short paragraphs: 2) Your contact info repeated and any additional information about availability, relocation, etc. 3) A thank-you closing paragraph.

5) Create a system for keeping track of your applications. I'm old school, and when working with our son on his internship search, we use index cards and an index card box with different colored dividers.

6)  Create a separate e-mail for your job search, and create files within that e-mail for Pending, Rejected, and  Follow-up

Yes.  

Absolutely none of this is "sexy" or "techy". If you prefer techy, that's your choice. (Check out #TEAL for a more techy approach.)

Just remember that the six above are simple, and I have found that simple is sustainable.

(Comments help keep my posts alive, and since I don't "pod", pretty vital. Thank you!)

#Applications, #resumes, #jobsearch, #jobsearchtips

Why don't you get feedback after interviews?

Let me make myself a target of vitriol.

Here's why:

Because to paraphrase Tom Cruise:

Most candidates can't handle the truth.

Early in my career, I attempted to give candidates who went through interview rounds some form of feedback.

I didn't want to say:

You rambled so much that we thought you had had a few too many.

You didn't make eye contact.

Your answers were evasive.

The other candidates had more of this, this, this, and this.  And, the more candidates we saw, the more we clarified that that is what would make a hire in this role outstanding.

So, I thought long and hard about how to respond constructively but kindly.

And, no matter what I did or how I phrased it, the response was the same:

A dialogue that frequently became confrontational...and almost invariably ended up with a request by the candidate to do another round of interviews.

So finally, what I landed on was this:

You have an excellent background. I know you will excel in the future and continue to be successful.  I have some free time this Friday. Would you be willing to have an open-ended discussion about possible next steps in your job search?

My niche was very limited to senior-level candidates, and I didn't conduct a high volume of searches (no more than three at a given time), so I had the capacity to do this.

A recruiter who conducts double-digit searches doesn't.

Comments are always appreciated, because comments of 5 words or more help my posts "live" on LinkedIn.

Follow me for more no b.s. Insights based upon over two decades of recruiting experience. If you're interested in working with me, please visit my website.

#RecruitingInsider, #jobsearch, #careers, #executivesearch, #jobs

What question do we always ask shortly after we are introduced to someone?

We always ask:

What do you do?

Our answer is always our jobs.

So, how do you answer this question when you are unemployed?

What do you "do" if it isn't your professional identity?

For me, the answer would be:

I read a lot of history, try to play piano, and sometimes I people-watch in my favorite coffee shop.

And, here's the shocker, folks. 

I had to find something to "do" to keep me sane when I was unemployed.

So, as the holidays approach, and you'll inevitably be asked by some relative: What do you do?

 Think about what you do that isn't you--the productivity bot-- but you, the human being whose value isn't defined by their job.

If you'd like, please feel free to reply in the comments below.

(And, since the LinkedIn Algo Beast only lets posts with comments live, you would be doing me a great favor!)



#jobsearchstrategies, #careers, #jobloss, #RecruitingInsider

Today is "Open Connection Sunday".

I previously did this once a month, but now I plan to do it every Sunday.

What does this mean?

Send me a connection request without a note, and I'll accept.

If it is a romantic overture or a "skyrocket your revenue" connection request, I will, however, block you.

Why do I do this:

1) Selflessly: I know these are challenging times with much rejection. LinkedIn seems bewildering to many people. Getting an instant acceptance helps with both.

2) Selfishly:  I write daily. I've refused multiple offers to "pod" (I like their content and comments, they like mine and comment), so my posts frequently sink under a lot of "buy my magic beans" content. Here's more stuff to be afraid of.  

I'm not going to pod, I'm never doing clickbait.  I do want what I read to reach a broader readership.  

So, do go ahead and send me a connection request.

I won't try to sell you anything — ever.

#RecruitingInsider, #jobsearch, #careers, #executivesearch, #jobs

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